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message 1: by GinBee, Founder & Mod (new)

GinBee (jennymbee) | 4446 comments Mod
Have you ever been judged by people just because you like to read paranormal books? (or indeed any sort of books)


message 2: by GinBee, Founder & Mod (last edited Jul 09, 2014 02:23PM) (new)

GinBee (jennymbee) | 4446 comments Mod
As a fairly new public convert (yeah to not hiding anymore!) to paranormal I have been surprised and rather dismayed by the reactions of my work collegues (no one else I know seems to have a problem with it at all!), the books are apparentley weird and only for strange people. I quote a 60 year old lady I work with "only freaks read stuff like THAT" said while they spit venom at me!! - Their problem NOT mine! The reaction was to Sookie Stackhouse!! Imagine if I'd taken something like BDB to read!!! Think I need a new job?

Personally I am always happy to see someone reading whether it is my type of book or not. Why be a book snob? Although for me personally some types of books have a time and place, eg erotica at home (just my opinion, but I'd blush if I read even parts of BDB in public!!!)


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Book Huntress (bookhuntress) | 30 comments Jen wrote: "but I'd blush if I read even parts of BDB in public!!!) "

I know, I was traveling while I was reading the BDB series and I kind of went "oh my" in my head when I got to one of "those" sections - I was in an airport surrounded by people... :)

But I have to say, yeah i think there is some judgment, in fact I have to be honest I have some of myself, I mean when I had to go into the Romance section to get the next BDB book I was horrified!!!! *wink wink*

The biggest issue I think is the book covers and what they show... most of the time they look like silly steamy romance books and they SO are not!!!! In fact that is one of the reasons LKH is changing her book covers so people can feel more at ease in reading them in public and to pull in a new audience, because if a friend hadn't given me those books to read I never would have picked them up...

Jen wrote: "I quote a 60 year old lady I work with "only freaks read stuff like THAT" said while they spit venom at me!! "

I can't believe that anyone would be that harsh, I mean it's one thing to laugh or whatever but to be that mean.. ugh I just hate people sometimes... in the immortal words of my dad "people suck"


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GinBee (jennymbee) | 4446 comments Mod
Jennifer, I totally agree about the covers. Interesting to know thats why LKH changed the covers, really do not look like silly steamy romance books now!! They have been changed in the UK too along similar lines (I've seen the US covers on Goodreads)

Jennifer wrote:"I can't believe that anyone would be that harsh, I mean it's one thing to laugh or whatever but to be that mean.. ugh I just hate people sometimes... in the immortal words of my dad "people suck"

I know it's kinda hard to believe but that's a typical thing for her to say to me - I REALLY do not like her at all, it's not like she has her whole life sorted and wonderful or anything!! Sorry she makes me kind of angry, how dare she say ......


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Book Huntress (bookhuntress) | 30 comments so basically she is a big poopie-head!!!!


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Book Huntress (bookhuntress) | 30 comments oh and yeah it is why LKH changed her covers, she had men tell her that they liked her books but couldn't read them in public, in fact she said one of her readers was "accosted" on the subway by an old lady as to why he was reading that smut!!!! LOL


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GinBee (jennymbee) | 4446 comments Mod
Jennifer "Book Huntress" wrote: "so basically she is a big poopie-head!!!!"

That's actually a really polite way to put it Jennifer!!!


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GinBee (jennymbee) | 4446 comments Mod
Calling LKH smut is so unfair - not all the books are like that ;)


message 9: by Catherine (new)

Catherine I have a couple of friends who laugh at me for reading paranormal romance. Apparently, they think paranormal romance = 'supernatural porn'!


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Danielle Girard | 20 comments Catherine wrote: "I have a couple of friends who laugh at me for reading paranormal romance. Apparently, they think paranormal romance = 'supernatural porn'!"

I'm with you on that!! My friends think it is funny that i read them. My wife actually told me.. i like that you read all the time but just an FYI your never going to meet a werewolf/vampire or become one!! I like the subjects and i like the suspense of it all!! I will meet my werewolf one day!! lol!!


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Kimberley (Trillianne) | 373 comments This is something I can now say, when reading physdical books I would get comments made when I was on the train, some good some strange but since switching to e-books, no-one knows what I'm reading unless they ask (which only one person has) so there are no comments, On guy on the train asked me if I was playing a new game thing and was surprised to hear it was a book, then he gave me the creeps by saying he would get one so no-one would know he was reading adult lit, ewwww!


DarkHeart "Vehngeance" (darkheart) | 49 comments My husband refers to my books as vampire porn and doesn't understand my appreciation of the m/m genre. LOL

I've had negative comments from family regarding some of my books, but I write it off as ignorance, especially as I've turned several family members on to the paranormal genres.

I had a coworker read the back of my copy of a Josh Lanyon book and just fixated on the fact that the lead character was a gay male. Sigh...

I don't have time for narrow-minded or homophobic people, so I couldn't care less what anyone thinks about my books. =D


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Kimberley (Trillianne) | 373 comments Here here

Their loss for their own ignorance


message 14: by Danielle The Book Huntress (Back to the Books) (last edited Mar 19, 2010 05:53AM) (new)

 Danielle The Book Huntress (Back to the Books) (gatadelafuente) I've read romance since I was 12 (37 now). People are pretty judgmental about the genre, but at least we're happy.


message 15: by GinBee, Founder & Mod (new)

GinBee (jennymbee) | 4446 comments Mod
Danielle "The Book Huntress" wrote: "I've read romance since I was 12 (37 now). People are pretty judgmental about the genre, but at least we're happy."

DarkHeart "Vehngeance" wrote: "I don't have time for narrow-minded or homophobic people, so I couldn't care less what anyone thinks about my books. =D"


Well said Danielle and DarkHeart!!

Kimberley I agree it's their loss. If they are too closed minded to even entertain what we read, then they would not apperciate it anyway!!


message 16: by Regina (new)

Regina (reginar) That is why I like to read on the Kindle, no dorky silly cliche covers. :)


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Nathaliedv | 4 comments Catherine wrote: "I have a couple of friends who laugh at me for reading paranormal romance. Apparently, they think paranormal romance = 'supernatural porn'!"

I get this alot too.
I'm a Dutch girl and when i tell people i read alot of english books then they're all excited for reading books in another language when i tell them that the books i read are paranormal romances they just stare at me and say that that doesn't count as english.. 'cause its to easy

So stupid :P but i don't care i love after a day of classes and work to just sit back don't think at all and read an easy book!


BTW when i read an erotic scene in public i'm always afraid people know what i'm reading and then i get ashamed and all red. :P


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Lura (luraj2612) | 18 comments Nathaliedv wrote: "BTW when i read an erotic scene in public i'm always afraid people know what i'm reading and then i get ashamed and all red. :P"

Haha! Ya'll amuse me with this.

I used to write erotica in public. Longhand. No one ever asked me what I was writing. ^_^

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Back to the topic at hand: Yes. Lots. I had people tell me I was too smart to be reading "that trash" back when I was in college. Of course, back then I didn't read paranormal romance. I didn't even know it existed. I read a lot of historical romance, though.

A lot of people still have that attitude. I do my best to ignore them. It's their loss, after all.

Jennifer wrote:"I can't believe that anyone would be that harsh, I mean it's one thing to laugh or whatever but to be that mean.. ugh I just hate people sometimes... in the immortal words of my dad "people suck"

My father-in-law says "people are a$$holes." ^_^


message 19: by chucklesthescot (new)

chucklesthescot A penpal I used to write to in Alabama called me 'The Spawn of Satan' because I said I was reading Stephen King's 'Salems Lot'! She lectured me for my loose morals and satanic compulsions! Can you imagine her reaction to some of the LKH books?!Honestly you'd think I was out murdering people and mutilating cats the way she was ranting on. Naturally we don't write to each other now!


message 20: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Most of the judgement I get come from people who don't ask what are you reading that for, but why are you reading?!!! I feel like giving the Bill Hicks rant every single time.

As for my choices, I don't embarass easy so am just as at home reading Norman Mailer during my lunch break as I am Laurell K. Hamilton. One of my favourites recently was Exit to Eden, a highly erotic S&M tale from Anne Rice that had a very lovely and pretty cover...I got a few raised eyebrows when I told them what it was about!


message 21: by Kimberley (new)

Kimberley (Trillianne) | 373 comments Lisa - I like Anne Rice's Beauty series, I too read that on my lunch hours at work, read the 3 in a week, surprisingly I didn't get comments about those but I got lots of comments reading Jeffrey Archer than anything else (all nasty I should say too). As I said previous, no-one can tell what I am reading now and I love just being able to get on with it. I always remember my Grandad saying many things on reading but a few spring to mind, one of which is 'People who don't read have no imagination, they have to rely on tv to do it for them', going with that it is their loss.


message 22: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Hey Kimberley, I'll definitely be checking out the Beauty series as I've loved nearly everything I've read of hers so far - even her 'normal' writing is incredibly highly charged so I shouldn't have been so surprised at just how good her erotica is!


message 23: by Kimberley (new)

Kimberley (Trillianne) | 373 comments Hey Lisa, I enjoy most of Anne Rice works, she is a good author but her recent stuff (all to do with Christ) just isn't my thing. Love all her other stuff though. What others have you read of hers?


message 24: by Lisa (new)

Lisa I'm in complete agreement, I haven't been able to get in to any of the stuff she's written since re-finding her faith. I tried Angel Time, and really didn't like it (and spent most of it wishing Lestat would turn up and kill everyone).

I've read The Vampire Chronicles, up until Blood and Gold (looking out for the rest), hence my huge crush on Lestat (Tom Cruise was sooo wrong for that, in my opinion).

Other than them and Exit to Eden, I've also read The Mayfair Witches trilogy, Cry to Heaven and Feast of All Saints, all of which I thought were fabulous, beautiful and many other gushing adjectives. Other than particulars from the Vamp Chronicles, I think Cry to Heaven has been my favourite. What were yours?


message 25: by Kimberley (last edited Apr 01, 2010 05:21AM) (new)

Kimberley (Trillianne) | 373 comments I have all her works on eReader so pick them up every now and then. I had Christianity preached to me so can't bring myself to read her new works (shame Lestat doesn't make an appearance, I would maybe take a look then. I love her Vamp Chronicles and her erotica, he witchcraft works are good but not as good, being pagan I see it a little different I guess.
My fav of them all is Queen of the Damned.


message 26: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Are there any books dealing with witchcraft that you would recommend? It would be interesting to read something that looked at it from a more pagan background, and I'm always looking for new reads.


message 27: by Kimberley (last edited Apr 01, 2010 06:13AM) (new)

Kimberley (Trillianne) | 373 comments Most fiction is just that, fiction, if you are interested in reading up have a look at Scott Cunninghams 'Solitary Practitioner' or any of the books in my wiccan-witchcraft shelf, there are others but the ones I have on here are a good base. I'll message a list to you.


message 28: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Excellent - I shall head on over to your shelf. Thank you!


message 29: by GinBee, Founder & Mod (last edited Apr 01, 2010 10:09AM) (new)

GinBee (jennymbee) | 4446 comments Mod
What would you recommend I read first of Anne Rice, just adding to my TBR (again). Never heard of the beauty series what's it about?

Kimberley wrote: "Most fiction is just that, fiction, if you are interested in reading up have a look at Scott Cunninghams 'Solitary Practitioner' or any of the books in my wiccan-witchcraft shelf, there are others ..."

Sounds interesting, I'm off to look over that shelf too!


message 30: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Hey Jen, having not yet read the Beauty series (though I'm itching to!) I don't really feel qualified to say, but the goodreads synopsis says:

"Anne Rice's retelling of the [Sleeping:] Beauty story probes the unspoken implications of this lush, suggestive tale by exploring its undeniable connection to sexual desire. Here the Prince reawakens Beauty, not with a kiss, but with sexual initiation. His reward for ending the hundred years of enchantment is Beauty's complete and total enslavement to him as Anne Rice explores the world of erotic yearning and fantasy"

...oo-er!

As to the rest of Anne Rice, I was first introduced by reading her Cry To Heaven, which is a truly gorgeous (non-paranormal) book about the castrati in 18th century Venice. I was so captvated that I had to borrow everything I could off my friend, who's something of an Anne Rice fiend.

As vampires seem to be quite an interest I'd suggest the Vampire Chronicles. Personally the first book, Interview With The Vampire, wasn't one of my favourites (told from the viewpoint of Louis, who isn't one of my top characters), but well worth it for the foundation to the series, and once Lestat takes over in the subsequent books the only way is up!


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Who? | 5 comments Yes my goodness! i was reading this book by Laurlene Mcdaniel and people were saying wow shes a lovy cheesy girl, and then i read meet me by the moonlight and it was really good and people got weirded out because it had a guy kissing a girls neck! i cant believe people take the cover so seriously, they just told me that i was one who enjoys sexuality! ugh it was annoying


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Cassie Cruel (faith_isola) | 468 comments Yes!!! Covers and titles are sometimes so cheesy that people instantly look at it and question you :/


message 33: by Sam (new)

Sam  (sam222) I apparently don't have very many people that has seen me read because I have never gotten a negative comment for what I have read or currently reading. Ether that or the people around me that see me read really could care less about anything that I read. I really don't know if that's a good or bad thing....

When I was younger I hated to read....you couldn't get me to touch a book...I barely touch one in school...I was the jackass in school that made fun of the kids that read alot. My point in that is that I have be become the bookworm of my friends group...I never wanted to be called a bookworm and in a way I still do but it don't bother me as much as it use to....but the funny thing is that none of my friends don't care what I read...So I guess I'm surrounded by the careless group or I don't read out in public enough o.O

TO EVERYONE: Next time someone says something about what your reading just hit them in the face with the book...Problem solved


message 34: by michelle+8 (last edited Nov 20, 2011 08:54PM) (new)

michelle+8 (michelleplus8) I've never gotten a comment about what I read, even with everything getting posted to Facebook, but my grandmother did ask me if I still had time to clean my house with all the reading I've been doing lately. ;-)


message 35: by Susan (new)

Susan Michelle wrote: "I've never gotten a comment about what I read, even with everything getting posted to Facebook, but my grandmother did ask me if I still had time to clean my house with all the reading I've been do..."

and...?

same answer as me...? housework?


message 36: by Sarah (new)

Sarah (sarealist) | 473 comments My boyfriend also refers to my books as "vampire porn" and thinks I live in a fantasy world. He doesn't get it and thinks it alters how I see the real world! I'm like, "helloooooo, it's called Fantasy for a reason!"

Also, he is very lucky these men aren't real hahahaha

I think it is ignorant to judge based on what people read, at least they are reading something and working their mind. It seems to come from people who never pick up a book and their extent of reading is a menu or the cover of a magazine.


message 37: by Claire (new)

Claire | 237 comments My husband thinks I'm reading "porn", he claims he's only joking but he asks every time I get my Kindle out or if I buy new books he asks whether it's "porn".
He really has no imagination but can watch manga films which are way worse than anything I read.


message 38: by Vikki (new)

Vikki (silverstarz) Can't say people have ever really judged me based on my taste in books. People make assumptions quicker because of my job...


message 39: by michelle+8 (new)

michelle+8 (michelleplus8) Susan *ARK* wrote: "and...?

same answer as me...? housework?"


I'm too busy with intellectual pursuits for such a menial task. LOL. ;)


message 40: by Megan (new)

Megan  (trixiekitten) If they have, I was too busy reading to notice :)


message 41: by Katya (last edited Nov 21, 2011 06:49PM) (new)

Katya | 86 comments I had a boy friend once who used to laugh at me because I read romance novels....he said I was "pathetic." I forced him to read one with me and while in the middle of a rather saucey section, he said, "Ewhhheeeewwww, I would never do that to a girl." I heard crickets.... Needless to say....that was a tell tale sign of things to come...I guess I don't have to tell you that he didn't last long.

But seriously, I have had people laugh at me....mostly men but not laugh at me...more at the book....it is the women who have laughed at me personally.

http://youtu.be/a3b-9BvJIps
http://youtu.be/A4yLcX-UQes
http://youtu.be/C9IacjxH3lY


message 42: by Becki (new)

Becki @ Katya wow what a bastard. if you don't mind my saying.

No I don't think if anyone has ever judged me on my reading material buty my friends do crack a lot of jokes about how much reading I do. And how much money I spend on them.


message 44: by michelle+8 (new)

michelle+8 (michelleplus8) I'm highly amused at the number of men who apparently laugh at romance novels for being "porn." Because they never watch actual porn, right? LOL. If my husband said that, I would laugh my @$$ off. ;)


message 45: by Katya (new)

Katya | 86 comments Becki wrote: "@ Katya wow what a bastard. if you don't mind my saying.

No I don't think if anyone has ever judged me on my reading material buty my friends do crack a lot of jokes about how much reading I do...."


Yeah Becki...I know how to pick them.


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Nichola connor (httpgoodreadsnicconnor) | 17 comments dont worry ladies ive had the same nonesense said by friends and partner although i find it hilarious when the books im reading are called (vampire porn) why not is what i say!!
Who wants to sit&read real life stories or gangster books when we have news channels full of "real life" who wants to read about it when we can put our feet up & dive right into a good paranormal book were your imagination is required. men dont get it because they have no imagination its as simple as that.
i love my paranormal books and am constantly on the hunt for the next big series to sink my wandering mind into i really couldnt care less what anyone espesh my other half thinks...


A Voracious Reader (a.k.a. Carol) (avidreader68) When I was a teen (many long years ago, I mean, just a few years ago) people would judge me because I liked to read Harlequins. If people judge me now they don't say anything and frankly I don't care if they do. It's my life and I'll do what I want, thank you very much. My husband LOVES when I read 'vampire porn' or erotica since he benefits. :D


A Voracious Reader (a.k.a. Carol) (avidreader68) Meagan wrote: "^ When I used to read Harlequins from the library, I used to get the same reactions.

I get weird looks when I read young adult books (mostly Twilight-like and paranormal books). But mostly becau..."


Omg, a guy was hitting on you when you were buying erotica? What.A.Loser.He.Is. I'm picturing him wearing plaid pants, lots of jewelry, hair slicked back, cheesy moustache...ugh!


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Becki @ katya. katya wrote: Yeah Becki...I know how to pick them.

At least you dumped his sorry ass. i hate people like him.

And further more I don't understand why people have to be so negative about what we read. if we read them obvioulsy thers a market for it and it seems to be pretty huge. Also there could be worse things out there we could be doing society should be lucky our vices are reading


A Voracious Reader (a.k.a. Carol) (avidreader68) That's what I've always maintained. I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, abuse the law, I pay my bills and I watch very little tv and I don't play video games, but I do collect books. A lot of them.


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