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Jenna
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Sep 26, 2024 05:25PM
Okay so basically back in July I got my first job. I'm 14 so it was pretty big for me. I work with this girl who is 15 and a grade above me. I knew her when I was little but we grew apart cuz we were like really little when we knew each other and didn't even remember each other. Anyway, me and her got close really fast but go to different schools. so today we were working together and she starts telling me about this boy shes been talking to that's from my school and I'm like oh what's his name and we will call him K. so she tells me about K and I'm like bro thats my ex bf. and basically she didn't know that so I'm not mad at her for it but I'm mad at him because when he asked for her snap he knew that me and her work together and are friends and still is trying to talk to her and she told him that nothing is going to happen with them cuz me and her are coworkers and friends and he is still trying to be with her and was asking her to ft when she got home from work while me and her were working together. am I in the wrong for being mad at him? also me and him still talk regularly and we were each others first serious relationships.
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so are u just mad at him bc he's trying to talk to your close friend ? (I think it's reasonable to be mad at "boys")
ella wrote: "so are u just mad at him bc he's trying to talk to your close friend ? (I think it's reasonable to be mad at "boys")"Im mad cuz he knows that we are friends, me and him still talk and he told her that we dont, and cuz even tho she said nothing was gonna happen hes still asking her to ft when she gets outta work. also, it js hurts cuz like hes telling her everything he used to tell me and like saying all the things to her that he used to tell me and its so hard to watch him move on with one of my close friends. and, in the state i live in, yes i can work at 14 but not many places hire this young. i was lucky to have found a place with an owner who hires young.
oh okay so he's a liar...well makes sense why you would be mad. do you still have feelings for him? And cool what state you from ?
I personally wouldn't be mad, he might've known to make you jealous and if that's the case then pretend you dont care.
He's obviously moving on and you should as well, get with one of his friends lmaooo
He's obviously moving on and you should as well, get with one of his friends lmaooo
I understand why you’re mad at him, but this is a taste of what men can be like… well boys! lol He doesn’t respect you or your boundaries so I wouldn’t even waste my time being mad at him because he doesn’t even respect you or actually care. She can totally have that, you wish her the best.. having a boy that doesn’t respect boundaries or …. Might like one of her other friends lol when people are showing you who they are, listen to them. PS.. i’m proud of you for working at 14. Keep your hustle going girl. Girl power
i would be pissed too, but he's moving on and you can't really pick and choose who he decides to talk to, even if he lies about it. he isn't entitled to tell you anything anymore.i say you move on too girl
ella wrote: "oh okay so he's a liar...well makes sense why you would be mad. do you still have feelings for him? And cool what state you from ?"yeah. lied right to her while i was sitting across from her and work and she was showing me all the messages. and im from michigan!
Jaiden wrote: "I personally wouldn't be mad, he might've known to make you jealous and if that's the case then pretend you dont care.He's obviously moving on and you should as well, get with one of his friends l..."
I told the girls thats what I'm going to do lmaoooo. and yeah, its just hard not to be when me and him were finally starting to like get close again yk.
Marisol wrote: "I understand why you’re mad at him, but this is a taste of what men can be like… well boys! lol He doesn’t respect you or your boundaries so I wouldn’t even waste my time being mad at him because h..."true. I really shouldnt be wasting time and energy on him anyway. I mean hes my ex for a reason yk.
and thanks so much!!
₊˚ʚ mariah (ia) wrote: "i would be pissed too, but he's moving on and you can't really pick and choose who he decides to talk to, even if he lies about it. he isn't entitled to tell you anything anymore.i say you move o..."
right. he doesn't have to tell me anything anymore but me and him were getting close again and even tho I should be moving on I do still have feelings for him and ig I was hoping things would work out with him but like someone else said, when people show you who they are you should listen and I guess that's what I need to do.
and like its also so hard to move on because he was and unfortunately still is the only person I want to talk to when I'm not okay. he is the only person who I ever open up to when something happens and now hes moving on and I dont have that person anymore.
you’re not on the wrong for being mad. he probably did that on purpose to get you mad and jealous. the best thing you can do is have no contact, i know it’s hard but it will get easier eventually and you’ll move on faster.
I probably shouldn't say this, but who the hell talks to their ex-bf? Like even if it was a serious relationship and you both were falling in love, like what? If I were you, in this situation, I'd probably just stop talking to him. And if you're not mad at the girl ( well, you can't be, she didn't know he was your ex) I don't see a reason for you to be mad at him (even if he did know) and if you ask me I would probably say that you were in the wrong. This is just my opinion, please respect it.
@jenna people move on and maybe it's time you do. it may be hard bc he was your person but he is your ex so maybe you should start letting go
@jenna first i wanna say we live close ur state is so close to mine lol u have EVERY right to be mad. i would be hurt too to see him move on regardless but with ur close friend? no. especially when hes lying to her too. as hard as it might be u need to move on from him and prolly stop talking to him at all bc it's not good for you after everything hes doing.
if u dont mind me asking why did you guys break up?
@ lilly - we broke up because he has really bad anger issues and my bio dad was abusive when i was younger so being yelled at triggers a lot of trauma for me but he was an amazing friend so we were still friends after we broke up because even tho we didnt work as a couple we were really good friends.
Anna wrote: "I probably shouldn't say this, but who the hell talks to their ex-bf? Like even if it was a serious relationship and you both were falling in love, like what? If I were you, in this situation, I'd ..."I still talked to him because its really hard for me to open up and let people in and he was one person i did and it was the same for him so when we broke up, we were still close and friends.
ella wrote: "@jenna people move on and maybe it's time you do. it may be hard bc he was your person but he is your ex so maybe you should start letting go"Yeah, i know your right and i need to start letting myself let go of him and our relationship.
tavia wrote: "you’re not on the wrong for being mad. he probably did that on purpose to get you mad and jealous. the best thing you can do is have no contact, i know it’s hard but it will get easier eventually..."
no contact is what ive been doing since this started, even tho its so hard. hes started acting like i dont exist and ive been trying to do the same even tho its so hard to pretend we dont have a history when there has been so much that happnened between us and he really was the first boy i ever fell in love with or at least as much as you can fall in love at my age.
I've heard that the first loves are the ones that will always stick with ya but people eventually move on and find better or grow, etc
ella wrote: "I've heard that the first loves are the ones that will always stick with ya but people eventually move on and find better or grow, etc"yeah, i get that. yk its not even that hes moving on, i knew i would have to deal with that eventually, its that hes moving on with her.
You have every right to be mad! Boys are such d!c₭$ ughhhhhhhh
oh I meant you moving on from him but okay
ella wrote: "oh I meant you moving on from him but okay"ooooh lmao.. yeah, its like im ready to move on yk its literally js that its her and that me n him were like on good terms until this. sorry i prob sound so dumb rn going like back n forth with this
okay so im pissed and dont care if im in the wrong or not at this point lmao. so basically after all this me n my ex stopped talking and then today his best friend accidentally hit me then texted me and said sorry and i texted my ex and asked if he gave his friend my number js cuz i wanted to know who gave it to him. anyways he says yes then says he cant talk to me cuz he told the girl i work with that he wouldn't talk to other girls so i said "really thats crazy cuz she told me yall stopped talking" and he was like oh.. can we change the subject. so im pissed that she lied to me abt it.
so you know for sure that they stopped talking or are you guessing from what he said ?
the girl said they stopped talking then he told me that he told her that he wont talk to other girls cuz they talking. and idfk what he did i was at my locker and i have a bottom locker so i was like on my knees (ik) anyway he ran by messing w/ one of his friends and elbowed me in the face
Aru (Percy's Version) wrote: "You have every right to be angry. Like, that asshole (the guy) is just trying to make u mad. And ur friend shouldn't have lied. did u ask her about it?"not yet cuz idfk what to say
if your ex makes you so mad why do you even bother with it ?
your wasting your time at your ex plus a silly boy focus your energy on something that actually matters than a stupid boy
yeah. its not even the boy its the fact that she lied to me after looking me in my eyes and telling me she stopped fw him
makes sense. she prob didn't tell you cus she knew how you would react but you should ask her in person why she lied
yeah i think thats what im gonna do. tbh now that ive thought abt it more, i dont love that they talk but its also not smt that i want to lose our friendship over. if she wants to talk to him or fw him or wtv that whole thing is thats fine as long as she dont lie to me yk.
