I'm lowkey confused/ have a crisis??

[kermie]

Hi, happy pride month! Im kinda confused rn and could prob use some guidance. I think im still questioning my sexuality (?) like i know that im queer i can feel it and it feels right but i feel like i dont know anything about my gender and sexuality. Like idk if im actually valid or not or if im rlly queer. Idk if this is just me or if some people can relate but if u can pls help ur girl out. 🥺🙏Thx <33

[CJ]

Hello and happy Pride to you too!

You are valid, even if you are still figuring things out and don't know what words to use to describe yourself or your experience. It's OK. Obviously, just going along with the status quo isn't cutting it for you or you wouldn't be questioning things, so yes, you're one of us.

We live in a society that doesn't encourage or support us examining our gender and sexuality. It doesn't give us the space or the tools to do that. We are expected to just fall in line and go with whatever society has decided for us. So of course it can be very overwhelming and confusing to start asking who you really are. Yes, it will be hard and scary to start that journey of questioning and exploring, especially when we already know, at least intuitively, that society isn't going to be very supportive of us. But the alternative is never getting to understand ourselves for who we really are, whatever variety of queer we may be, and finding ourselves unsatisfied and unhappy or worse.

We look at cis and hetero people and how they never have to question anything about their gender or sexual identity because society holds them up as the norm, and it can really make us feel inadequate, like something about us is wrong or missing. Try not to fall into that trap. Turn it around instead: we queers have to opportunity to understand ourselves and others more deeply and more broadly because we choose to ask the questions and to seek out the answers.

I'm an older queer and there are still things I'm figuring out. I've known I'm nonbinary, for example, have known since I was a teen, even before we had the word "nonbinary" (I used "androgynous" back then) but I'm still learning what that means in a fuller sense and how to communicate that to others. Like with many things for us humans, it's a life-long journey. The important thing is I'm on that journey and I'm giving myself the opportunity to know and love myself and others as authentically as I can. Likewise, I hope for all the best for you with your own journey. It'll be worth it. <3

[kermie]

Thank you! This def made me feel better :)

[kermie]

Tysm I'm so grateful for this support and help <33

[DSS]

Greeting, happy pride month! I’ve been in a relationship with my gf for 5 months (I identify as lesbian and her pan). I feel as if I’ve moved too fast into this relationship because I don’t really know my partner. Is this normal? What should i do?

[Michael]

I realized pretty early on that I was “different.” It took me years to figure out I was a panromantic bisexual. And it took even longer to be comfortable with it. But once I finally understood myself and said “This is me” I’ve never been happier. And I’ve made so many new friends, and the friends I’ve had for years have been so supportive and accepting of me. They can see how much happier I am.
I know how hard it can be, but I also know that no one can tell you who you are. YOU have to figure it out. It won’t be easy, but remember that you’re not alone. We all go through it. Try not to worry too much about the label. Just be your complete self, and the label will come to you. You’ve got this. Happy Pride!!!

[K]

Friend please do not get super hung up on 'am I valid?', only you know your authentic self and it's okay to be questioning. I cycled through some labels that don't fit me anymore before landing on something I'm comfortable in a few years ago.

And always remember if it turns out your initial thoughts on your sexuality weren't what you thought they were, that's fine too. If exploring your orientation leads you back to where you started there's nothing wrong with that, you can just now be extra comfortable and secure in your identity!

Happy pride <3

[kermie]

Ok, thanks for you guidance :) <33

[Brianna]

°•starry eyes•° wrote: "Hi, happy pride month! Im kinda confused rn and could prob use some guidance. I think im still questioning my sexuality (?) like i know that im queer i can feel it and it feels right but i feel lik..."

Hi <3
29 year old Female

I don't identify with any sexuality. No label feels correct to me. I'm constantly in a battle with labeling myself, because it is so common nowadays.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, I'm not sure of your age or how far along in your journey you are. But, whether you just started your journey, you're half way threw it, or whatever, you are still valid. Because with me being almost 30 and still not knowing how to label myself, I still think I am valid. And I think you are too <3

[Archer]

Sara wrote: "Hi Starry Eyes, firstly, I love everything CJ said. I understand where you're at. I recently came out as a lesbian at 36. (Was in a six-year relationship with a man). I'd always thought of myself a..."

I came out as a lesbian at 37 and this sounds soooooo familiar. I felt self-conscious about coming out so late, especially at the beginning. It's comforting to hear there's others out there going through similar stuff 🧡

@starry eyes, as you can see, it's a process for everyone. If anything, questioning your queerness is a telltale sign that you definitely are queer lol.

@DSS It's probably innocuous--you dedicate some time to getting to know each other better or realize you're not that into her. Don't make any big decisions (eg moving in together) until that anxiety is assuaged, though.

[inspace-Stellaくコ:彡]

°•starry eyes•° wrote: "Hi, happy pride month! Im kinda confused rn and could prob use some guidance. I think im still questioning my sexuality (?) like i know that im queer i can feel it and it feels right but i feel lik..."

Hi! My name is Stella, I recently discovered I was pan, and I'm still figuring my life out :), but for a long time I felt like I didn't understand, myself. It doesn't really matter though, the labels I mean. You might not relate to labels! Anyway, I can totally relate :)

[kermie]

Thx :) also I've been questioning my gender and I think I might be a demigirl💅✨️