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GAH!!!


I agree! I had author send me a message telling me about his book. BUT he did it after looking through my "read" list and thought I might like it, which I did. It was an excellent book and we might be carrying at my bookstore. But that was because he approached it in a tactful way. And he also had like 300+ books on his own list. Another thing that always creeped me out is when old guys friend request me, like the guy that was 45 that tried to add me, thats only a few years younger than my dad! ick
I notice I am getting authors and/or givers from the giveaways I have signed up for trying to add me as a friend. I don't have a couple ick for the authors that have other insights besides their own books, but some of them, you can tell, it is just self promotion.

i welcome everyone, thats just me


I discriminate. I won't lie. I accept legit people. If you have zero books and a million friends who mostly are all women..I WILL NOT add you. Why? Because I am here to talk to people about BOOKS (and obviously other things..but firstly books!). Yes..you might argue that you are "new"..however..if you have not taken the time to add your favorite books that you've read/books you want to read but have had the time to add random people you don't know..then i think you are confused and should be on a dating site or a site to make friends..this is goodREADS. We talk about books and make friends through that.
Whew. End of rant. I've just had a load of creepers trying to add me lately.
Whew. End of rant. I've just had a load of creepers trying to add me lately.




haha
Goodreads is becoming EHarmony!

lol, well that's the part that I don't trust. He has his shirt off in his profile picture, and it looks more like a modeling picture than anything. He's probably some dirty old man.

I also heavily screen my GR friends... Unless they're from a group I'm in, I usually click the "compare books" button & scan what books they've read. I'm actually considering upping my security by adding a question when people want to friend-request me.
Facebook has gone astray, and I'll be damned if I let that happen to GR!!


wait, how do u know its a creeper?

i guess, you see it that way, but i dont know and i dont really care, if someone friend requests me i add them, i actually welcome them i am not the type of person to push people away because of their style but thats just me

I've come across some scary people online, so I'm more careful than some people. I don't push people away because of their style. I used to befriend everyone and ended up getting bad, disturbing e-mails. I've started being more careful as a result and tend to gravitate towards people who appear to use this as more than just another social networking site. I like to get book recommendations and have compelling conversations. I can't do that with people I have nothing in common with. :)

Jana & Tahleen--I agree on everything you said in regards to the issue. It's not being judgmental or discriminating against people..it's just protecting yourself. And why would you want to be friends with somebody that you have nothing in common with? Especially when those guys have questionable intentions with adding girls.
Gene- I understand you are voicing your opinion and you have every right to do that. However, the manner in which you go about doing so needs to be in a while as not to be attacking a member or making their opinion seem any less. You could have said your opinion without trying to make it sound like you were insulting Jana and acting like she isn't a welcoming person and "pushes people away."
This is not an acceptable way to respond to another member. It took me alot of thought of how to approach this issue but I want it to be known that this group does not tolerate that kind of behavior. Stating your opinion is totally fine but it can be done in a respectful way.
Gene- I understand you are voicing your opinion and you have every right to do that. However, the manner in which you go about doing so needs to be in a while as not to be attacking a member or making their opinion seem any less. You could have said your opinion without trying to make it sound like you were insulting Jana and acting like she isn't a welcoming person and "pushes people away."
This is not an acceptable way to respond to another member. It took me alot of thought of how to approach this issue but I want it to be known that this group does not tolerate that kind of behavior. Stating your opinion is totally fine but it can be done in a respectful way.
i apologize to jana about the comments that i have stated, the truth is i was not trying to attack anyone, i was simply stating my opinion on the matter but i do apologize for the way i choiced my words
Thanks Gene! I really appreciate that. Sorry if I sounded harsh. I just do not want members to feel like they might be "attacked" (for lack of a better word) if they say something. I'm glad that you weren't trying to attack what she said.

I would be very sad if goodreads became like myspace/facebook!!! This is suppose to be about sharing a love of reading, not trying to pick up girls.
So have you guys notices this and do you have any goodread pet peeves of your own?