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message 1: by Angela (new)

Angela (love2sing13) | 15 comments Home schooling or public school and why


Taylor of Alethkar ❦ (aboutfandoms) | 13 comments There are definitely benefits of both, but at the end of the day I'll always think that public school is ultimately far better for the child socially. Having a parent be the central figure in all aspects of life is just not the best idea. Kids need school to be able to discover who they are socially and learn how to make friends with people who come from different types of backgrounds than their own. Of course, if you're home schooled there are supplements for this: ie being put on sports teams or taking up some kind of activity away from the home. That's doable and I've seen it work just fine and create great socially rounded kids. But public school is still the better option in the long run as it provides a better opportunity to discover identity without the influence of parental figures. I know if I had been home schooled, I'd not have turned out right. You have to be an incredibly good, empathetic, understanding and accepting individual to be able to homeschool your children and have them end up as something other than a carbon copy of you.
~Sorry for the super long response or any potential offense haha.


message 3: by elena ⚢ (new)

elena ⚢ (elenavhaps) | 39 comments okay, so coming from a person who has been to public, private, and homeschool, it entirely depends on the kind of person you are. i had to leave public school for private school because my city is gigantic, i have extreme social anxiety, and there were over 3,000 people going to the school, so i was pretty much dying at all seconds of the day. i left private school because of personal trauma, and now i'm at home doing online school. (my parents don't teach me, my computer does.) so yes, this means i'm home alone, which is a better alternative to having panic attacks in the school bathrooms lmao. but i also have two jobs, and since online school gives you a bit more time and freedom, i've had more room for recovery. i'll admit that i interact with people much less than i would if i'd stayed in public or private school, but that's what's best for me. i'm not saying i'm a hermit, though, so don't go jumping to conclusions; i have my group of friends and even a girlfriend since i've actually had the time to think about something other than how terrible school was for me. since i started online school i've had the chance to actually grow up rather than curling in on myself and hating everything. so yeah. homeschooling definitely isn't for everybody, but it's an option that exists for a reason and boy, am i glad that it does. (sorry this is so long yikes)


message 4: by Hanna (new)

Hanna As a homeschooler, I believe that's the best- from experience, and also from reading. (haha) It all boils down to, "Who do you want to teach your child?" Are you, as a parent and the one who cares about your child the most, willing to let him/her be taught who-knows-what by someone else?

History is a good indication of what government-run schools do. Think about the Hitler Youth and the brainwashed children under Stalin's rule. When the government has a hold of the children, they control what they think- and that next generation. Now, the school system wants to have control of your kids. They hate homeschooling, because you can teach them whatever you want.

So, whether you believe the public schools are evil or not, there is always a potential what they can become. Plus, there have been studies on how homeschoolers are generally smarter, and better-equipped for life.


message 5: by Sophie (new)

Sophie (romeowyn) | 44 comments As a teacher in a public school, I totally understand why some people homeschool their kids/why some kids prefer to be homeschooled. I would however strongly warn about the consequences of child/teenager isolation. Even if he/she has friends, he/she won't experience the school friends and school environment that pretty much teaches kids to bear one another even if they don't have much in common. And there's also the matter of the literal necessity to meet and get to know people outside your familiar environment : people from different social classes, political opinions, religions...
Second thing I would warn about is the level of expertise while teaching your kids/letting them be taught by distance courses. I for instance teach a chapter on communism, socialism and syndicalism in Germany from 1875 until today. I don't think most parents can help their kids with this. So wouldn't I know how to help my kids with advanced maths like algorithm.

But I strongly believe homeschooling is completely suitable and maybe even better than school for some kids.


message 6: by [deleted user] (new)

I'm in public school, but I'm completely pro-homeschooling when possible. At the very least, the system should be revamped/fixed in a lot of ways.


message 7: by Hanna (new)

Hanna Actually, here is a good explanation by some (very good, in my opinion) YouTubers about homeschooling: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJHt-m3VX6o
I encourage you who think public school is good because of the social skills students learn to watch it!


message 8: by ella ☆ (new)

ella ☆ any pronouns (bianchibooks) | 21 comments I actually did a presentation on Homeschooling vs. Public Schooling last year, and personally, I found more benefits for homeschooling as opposed to public schooling, although, I currently am public schooled and I'll continue to be.


message 9: by Melliott (new)

Melliott (goodreadscommelliott) | 427 comments I think some of this is age-dependent. When you get to the point where you can't prepare well enough to teach what they need to learn (i.e., probably anything past grade school), it's time to send them off to get in their Chemistry and Trig classes, along with some socialization with peers.


message 10: by Erin (new)

Erin (erinfwong) | 89 comments For me personally, I like the excitement of being around other people, and I've developed nice relationships with some of my teachers. I look forward to school every day because I get to interact with other people, and I feel that I can learn better when in a competitive/collaborative environment with classmates.


message 11: by Tacey Raye (new)

Tacey Raye | 11 comments I have been both homeschooled and in public school. Honestly there r a lot of benefits for both. It entirely depends on the child.


message 12: by Rima (new)

Rima Ben Hammadi | 159 comments Public school. As I see it, school os not only a place to educate yourself, it’s also a place to make friends to know how to deal with people how to become social how to deal with different kind of problems even small ones.
Public school is the place that helps you s’integrer a la vie social...


message 13: by Irfken (new)

Irfken | 40 comments Frankly, it depends on the parents and the children in question. Both systems have their advantages and disadvantages. Some children need one-on-one attention or take much longer to assimilate and apply information and so get left behind in a classroom. Many public schools don't help such children and even teachers label them as 'dumb.' I've seen it with my own eyes. Bullying can factor in such cases and the child's performance continues to plummet but he/she gets the blame. This leads to depression, emotional lability and closing oneself off from everyone which can be dangerous. Home-schooling can really help such kids. Some children get easily distracted/have ADHD, others are visual learners but no less intelligent, some fall on the autism spectrum and too many people and too much noise can become a sort of sensory overload for them, for such kids home-schooling can be quite ideal.

Parents who are thinking of homeschooling need to be well equipped and be able to provide an unbiased, interactive and innovative way of educating their kids. That's an issue because many parents go in thinking it's easy but end up being ill-equipped and under-prepared, too acquiescing to their children's demands or biased and so unable to create a balanced learning environment. Sometimes parents don't have sufficient knowledge, they have skewed/biased perspectives and/or unrealistic demands which don't help the child.

The two major issues people have with the system is the limited social interaction and egocentricity. There is a fear that these children will be narrow-minded and have limited perspectives because they don't interact with a variety of children from all walks of life. There is also concern of the unrealistic demands and placation that leads to heightened stress and huge egos. None of this should be a problem if the homeschooling is done right. When homeschooling is approached with the child's mental, physical, social and psychological well-being in mind, by a parent who is well versed with the subjects and curriculum but also who isn't dictatorial in what he/she wants his child to know and understands the need for balance, multiple perspectives and other people to talk to for example counselors, homeschooling becomes unparalleled.

With public school, there is social interaction and there are different teachers who teach a multitude of subjects and have differing perspectives so there is not much monotony but also there are a variety of sources of information as opposed to a single one. Schools offer other activities that are not necessarily part of the curriculum, clubs for example. There is promotion of teamwork, listening to others and seeing a problem from different perspectives as well as integration with people from other backgrounds. It can be a humbling experience. It can mold the mind and the personality. However there is a set curriculum and most teachers don't go off topic. It is government-sponsored which can be detrimental. In my country, religious education is a must and that brings a lot of bias. Every child is treated the same even though some may have special needs and require more attention or something more challenging. Most public schools don't consider this. Bullying and social anxieties are also problems that can make public school life horrifying and so home-schooling should be considered if changing schools isn't an option.

Sorry for the long discourse on the subject. It's a deep topic and I have barely touched the surface.


Jacob the Bookworm (jacobthebookworm) | 31 comments New question... public or private school?


message 15: by Esther (new)

Esther Jackson (ejjackson) Homeschool. I have been homeschooled all of my life and wouldn't know what to do in a public school.

I would prefer private school but it would be totally up to my parents and what we could afford.


message 16: by Rumell (new)

Rumell Khan (rkrespectedmember) | 1012 comments I honestly don't understand what the problem with school is .

Education is not your enemy.

Lack of it is.

If you're saying bullies, find ways to avoid them.

If you're saying mean teachers, speak to someone about it.


message 17: by Shawna (new)

Shawna Finnigan (sugoishawn) | 690 comments Rumell wrote: "I honestly don't understand what the problem with school is .

Education is not your enemy.

Lack of it is.

If you're saying bullies, find ways to avoid them.

If you're saying mean teachers, spea..."



I was severely bullied and I dealt with mean teachers. Trust me when I say that there isn't a way to avoid bullies and the staff will always side with the teachers. Education is definitely not the enemy, but home schooling is better for people like myself who have depression and anxiety from the people at public schools.


message 18: by stuti :)) (new)

stuti :)) (blobbieakastuti) | 704 comments Public school, cause i'm kinda lonely at home, and if I was homeschooling, i wouldn't have many friends cause most of my friends i have are from school... so yeah...!


message 19: by Morgan (new)

Morgan | 31 comments Public school, because I cannot financially afford the other choices.
If I could afford the alternatives, I have heard good things from unschoolers as well as certain boarding schools that have options for students to spend as much time with their families as possible. I'd be curious to learn more about both.


cali ♡ (old user: R♡) (localkokomimain) public school because FRIENDS
my chers are really kind and caring
at my sch there are no such things as ‘bullies’
of course there are gossipers but you get the point


message 21: by Nithila (last edited Nov 07, 2021 05:08AM) (new)

Nithila Shankar (nithilashankar) | 7 comments elena ⚢ wrote: "okay, so coming from a person who has been to public, private, and homeschool, it entirely depends on the kind of person you are. i had to leave public school for private school because my city is ..."

Apologies if this seems rude or you don't want to answer, but what do you mean by personal trauma? Like generally, not specifically. Again, apologies if this feels invasive, my prefrontal cortex has over a decade of development left, so I'm just gonna click post


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