I spend a lot of my free time gaming after work, so I thought that I might share some of my experiences here.For the majority of the time, I experience very kind gamers. Male and female alike. Of course, everyone usually assumes I am a male at first, my gamer tag not being very gender specific. I do not mind this though because most of the games I play are ones which males are usually the dominant gender in. I am not making excuses for them, I am just saying I am used to it. That everyone - even other females - assume I am male when we cross paths in the gaming world is something which needs to change as it is a symptom of underlying issues to do with gender and stereotypes.It is a thing which I believe I need to change within myself as well. As a female gamer, I am still always surprised when I hear another female over team speak. I am always surprised when I find another female gamer in the lobby which I am in if I did not pick their gender by their name, and even sometimes when I do, I am surprised. It feels very wrong of me to act this way, but it is unavoidable when I am playing with male gamers 90% of the time and subconsciously expect this to stay that way. Times are changing though and I am slowly working on not assuming everyone around me is a male just because of the game type and gamer tag.However, with every game and every gaming community, you have the idiots. The rude ones. The totally sexist misogynists. It is unavoidable to join lobbies and have the first thing you hear me, "I wanna f**k her in the p**sy!" The constant talk of sex is sickening at times when all you want to do is relax and chill with a few mates, maybe shoot a few of the enemy team (if you're good enough at the game, anyway). You have people who, once they discover you are a female, ask if you're a virgin, if you have a boyfriend, if you want to suck their d**k. All lovely stuff, as I'm sure you can imagine.The latter is one of the reasons why I don't publicly advertise I am a female gamer while in the gaming world. My name, while not originally intended to be gender neutral, is now something of a welcome disguise as I can avoid most of the nasty, dirty comments without any additional work on my part. Do I believe that a lot of female gamers bring the dirty comments on themselves by their gamer tags? No, because they did not ask to hear what they hear. Do I roll my eyes when I see certain gamer tags, like "GamerGirl5" or "xBabyDollx"? Yes, I do. It is probably something else which I need to change about myself, but hey, one thing at a time.
Just popping in! I'll be able to respond to y'all who addressed my post this afternoon. However I did stumble across this link and thought you might like to see it. Always thinking of my OSS family over here. ^^https://www.facebook.com/GamerGuysand...
Here is a brief update on my experiences with sexism in gaming: If anyone has heard of CSGO (Counter Strike: Global Offensive), they will know that in competitive mode, there is a very small chance of being able to forfeit. There is a surrender option, though it requires everyone on the team vote for the game to end. Basically, once you're in, you're in. And you can't get out without getting some type of ban for doing so. Reporting people who are sexist or offensive towards you does very little while you are in game, so if you face rough verbal treatment in this game, not only does it ruin your mood, it ruins the experience. You can mute people and report, but that can result in you missing important call outs. It ruins the game. As of late I have had two bans, both lasting one week long. The first was because a male friend of mine suggested we leave a competitive match of CSGO because of how the other males on the team were treating me. A team consists of five players, so three of my own team were saying some of the following: "Feminism is the cancer of the world." "Women are the cancer of the world." "Shut the fuck up, women, you aren't allowed to speak." "Women need to remember their place." Something you can understand I would not find to be pleasant. Not to mention that they were attacking my character, which obviously results in death and therefore ruins the game in more than just communication areas. The second ban is because I got kicked out of a competitive game too soon after my first week long ban ended. Why did I get kicked? Simple; I am a girl. I was with the same friend I was with when I got the first ban, so you may be asking how did I get kicked? I told him to vote with the three other team mates. Why? Because this is what I heard for the first quarter of the game: "Oh my gosh, you're a girl, I bet you love the attention you get from guys in this game.""I vet you only play for the attention.""I bet you're fucking ugly."As well as, predictably, some of the aforementioned comments from my first ban. When people think about sexism in gaming, the first thing they think about is the over-sexualisation of female characters. I understand that. However, I would like to remind everyone that not all games are like that. Overwatch is a fantastic example of successful gaming. The women, for the most part, are dressed appropriately (and I say for the most part because having all of them dressed conservatively is simply not realistic, as not everyone in real life dresses that way). Secondly, they have an openly LGBTQ female character. I bring this up because this is not where I see the problem in gaming. I see the problem in how male gamers can perceive female gamers. I see this in how female gamers, myself included, can be treated by male gamers. Female gamers make up around 50% of the gaming community, and the reason people either do not know this or chose not to acknowledge this is because a lot of female gamers feel the need to hide their gender. Female gamers often play male characters in MMO games in an attempt to avoid being taken as a girl. Why? Because female gamers receive a lot of harassment. This is more a rant than anything else, but I hope it can give people something to think about. How exactly can we target male gamers and make them realize that women are not the enemy? I hear a lot of people say to me that I should just ignore what they say, that I should brush it off. They have no lives, they probably live in their mother's basements, yada yada yada. But when has ignoring a problem ever solved a problem?
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