Hangout Questions

[Ribbon]

I'm not sure if I can start this thread, so apologies if I didn't follow the rules :)

In both of the books this month the main characters were stubborn and refused to ask for help even when it was obvious (to the reader) they needed it. I am the opposite and ask for help when I reach a sticking point. (To clarify - I am not whiney and dependant - I try to work through a problem but if I can't do it I ask for help or advice) My husband is the opposite and will not ask for help, even when it would be beneficial to do so.

So my question - if you are a person who doesn't ask for help are you aware of this? Do you think you should ask for help more? Why don't you? Do people around you complain that you try to do to much on your own?

[Arrika]

I have a number of eclectic hobbies (metal smithing, lampwork, Kiln work to name a few). I am also highly empathetic and aware of the abilities, interests and skills of those around me whom I would ask for help. There isn't a lot of cross over interest in my hands on activities. Due to that - I am rather independent when it comes to problem solving - so when I do need help, I know that I struggle with asking for it. Most often, it seems futile to bother others when I already know they would rather not engage, or more often - would not have the abilities needed to make a difference.

It may be my Canadian nature, but I really do not want to intrude on others and ask for help.

Yes, people complain that I do too much on my own - but no one else does it for me, so here I am.

[Felicia, Grand Duchess]

I forgot to post this week, thanks for covering me Jillian! I'll pull comments from the threads too. ME FIRED!

[Amanda]

I was taken aback by Joy's stubbornness and random arguing. Was anyone else surprised by this after the first chapter's set up of Joy being the reasonable, responsible one?

[Katie]

Does the not-so-witty banter tend to ruin scenes for anyone else? Whether I'm reading a love scene, an argument, or just a casual conversation, if I can't respect the attempts at sarcasm, weak insults, or just annoying banter it pulls me right out of the story. Are you able to look past that and read on to the next book in the hope of improvement, or does it just kill the book for you?

[Crystal]

The banter doesn't kill it for me because my husband and I are like that IRL. (Well, not in the bedroom, but the rest of the time.) It actually made the character a little more relatable to me, since I found her adamant skepticism rather irksome. How can someone who so vehemently denies the existence of the supernatural spend any of their time reading runes?

[Sean Lookielook]

Are you going to do a month where the fans pick the books by poll or forum write-in ballot?

[Felicia, Grand Duchess]

Sean wrote: "Are you going to do a month where the fans pick the books by poll or forum write-in ballot?"

I have a poll up tonight for choices between two categories. Last time I did a poll it got pretty crazy, but if someone can come up with a methodology that will be fair and easy then I'm all for it for April!

[Sean Lookielook]

Felicia wrote: "Sean wrote: "Are you going to do a month where the fans pick the books by poll or forum write-in ballot?"

I have a poll up tonight for choices between two categories. Last time I did a poll it got..."

You could open up a forum thread for suggestions and then put the top four or five in a poll. Or you could do what The Sword and Laser did this month and have a poll but allow for write-in votes.