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Sheila Gregoire's Reviews > Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
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From the get-go, this book sets up the wife as being the one who needs to change. Even in the subtitle--she has desires, but he has needs, desperate ones.
In the sex chapter, he describes sex as being about the man's "physical release" which, if she does not provide it, will prompt him to have affairs or lust after other women. Nowhere does he talk about how a woman may want sex, too, or about how men should ensure that their wives enjoy sex.
So much more to say, but here's a link to a very long article I wrote about it:
https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019...
In the sex chapter, he describes sex as being about the man's "physical release" which, if she does not provide it, will prompt him to have affairs or lust after other women. Nowhere does he talk about how a woman may want sex, too, or about how men should ensure that their wives enjoy sex.
So much more to say, but here's a link to a very long article I wrote about it:
https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019...
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January 20, 2014
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January 14, 2019
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February 11, 2021
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Jan 14, 2019 11:28AM
I definitely agree that he puts a lot of the burden on the woman, but I do think there are tools in the book that make the book worth reading. I do not know what we would have done if we had not understood the concept of the "crazy cycle" and intentionally putting our foot down to stop it.
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I was very upset when I was reading the chapter too. It assumes that it’s the woman’s fault that the man cheats because she might not always feel in the mood.
Yes. There are SO many good marriage books out there that do not have the dangerous aspects that this books does. Look for any marriage book by Gottman.
