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Greedy by Jen Winston
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bookshelves: american, bisexual, essays, memoir-bio, own, queer, new-york, non-binary

A memoir in essays structured around the author's bisexuality and embracing rather than shamefully rejecting the stereotypes of being greedy, confused, slutty and indecisive. In theory I love this approach. In practice I don't have much in common with Winston and those experiences-- which hey, cool, the bi+ community is very diverse!

But I did struggle to emotionally connect with some pieces (except for one about sexual assault which I found quite powerful). The voice is very millenial, chatty, and Internet-speaky, in a way that felt familiar to me but also made the author's individual personality a bit opaque. That said, it's a super readable book, one that I picked up intending to just have a look and then realized "Oh I guess I'm reading this now."

There's a bit at the end about coming to a non-binary identity and using she/they pronouns. I was especially interested in hearing more about that journey, especially as it's compared to the flux and fluidity of bisexuality. But maybe that's their next book!

I'm glad I read this book. It's one of those that didn't always necessarily speak to me, but that I am grateful is out in the world and that I know will be important to a lot of bi+ folks. Fans of Gaby Dunn's work will like this, I think.

My favourite line was "It's like the gay and straight communities are our parents, and each thought the other was going to pick us up from school."
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Reading Progress

July 19, 2021 – Shelved
July 19, 2021 – Shelved as: to-read
July 19, 2021 – Shelved as: american
July 19, 2021 – Shelved as: essays
July 19, 2021 – Shelved as: bisexual
July 19, 2021 – Shelved as: own
July 19, 2021 – Shelved as: memoir-bio
July 19, 2021 – Shelved as: queer
July 21, 2021 – Started Reading
July 21, 2021 –
page 12
3.57% ""It's like the gay and straight communities are our parents and each thought the other would pick us up from school.""
July 25, 2021 –
page 142
42.26% "A very real, raw, messy essay about sexual assault. Whoa. (Also I appreciate there are content warnings at the beginnings of essays so I was prepared for the content)."
July 25, 2021 –
page 185
55.06% ""Do I make myself queer?"
Good question..."
July 25, 2021 –
page 196
58.33% "Ouch, why do gay people think "Oh sweetie. It'll pass!" is an appropriate response to someone saying they're bi??"
July 26, 2021 –
page 285
84.82% ""Gender remains daunting. The question feels unanswerable--it took me 32 years to realize it was even a question at all. But maybe there's power in just recognizing the need to ask. I wonder--what would happen if I didn't seek concrete answers? If I let question marks dangle for their own sake, rather than because someone didn't respond?""
July 26, 2021 – Shelved as: non-binary
July 26, 2021 – Shelved as: new-york
July 26, 2021 – Finished Reading

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