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Red Flags of Love Fraud by Donna Andersen
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Jun 27, 2012

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Absoluely one of the best books about sociopathy on the market today, Red Flags of Love Fraud: 10 Signs You're Dating a Sociopath by Donna Andersen contains so much distilled, tested, real-world truth it's difficult to pinpoint the most useful portions. It's all good.

Andersen, the siterunner of lovefraud.com and it's attached blog, uses her own experience, crowdsourced wisdom from contributors to her site, survey data and information from professionals to pull together a must-have resource for anyone who has been victimized by a sociopath.

Fortunate folks whose lives haven't brushed up against these monsters might scoff at some of the stories, but for those whose lives have been wrecked by predators (who already know better), this book could be a lifeline.

If you have a loved one you suspect might be involved with a dangerous person, buy this book for him or her. If you're about to dip a toe in the internet dating pool, read this book first. And if you're a victim, just coming to the realization of what you were in love with, get this book and keep it close. You'll need to re-read its lessons over and over as you recover.

The writing is professional, the format is accessible and the book is notable for the absence of hucksterism. Andersen isn't selling seminars, retreats, courses or DVDs. She's just presenting facts, and her background in journalism really makes this book stand out from others in the same genre.

My only criticism is a perhaps too-abrupt ending. After over 200 pages of facts about con artists and abusers, rapists and criminals, I could have used an epilogue that reminded readers a bit more forcefully that recovery and reclamation of one's life are possible, and that sociopaths usually wind up alone, broke, pathetic and loathed.

Nevertheless, I'd recommend this book first, over The Sociopath Next Door, over Without Conscience, over many others cited in the footnotes. It's unvarnished truth coming from an obvious place of compassion and understanding. You don't find that very often.
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