Karen's Reviews > It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self

It's Not Always Depression by Hilary Jacobs Hendel
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really liked it

“When we judge others for what and how much they feel, it says more about our capacity to handle the emotions of others.”

I had an exceptionally bad year in 2018. In May, I experienced a distinct shift in emotional state and fell deeper and deeper into what looked awfully like a depression. I don't know if it was depression or not but I do know it made living my life considerably harder. It took thirteen months for the curtain to lift and for me to feel some light again.

So when I saw this book at the library, I wanted to see what I could learn. And I am glad I did. This book uses the Change Triangle and talks about the importance of feeling your feelings.

There are:
- 7 core emotions: fear, anger, sadness, joy, disgust, excitement, and sexual excitement
- inhibitory emotions: anxiety, shame, guilt
- defenses: all the ways in which you try not to feel emotions
- openhearted self: calm, curious, connected, compassionate, confidant, courageous, clear.

The book focuses on going through the triangle to identify which of the 7 core emotions you're actually feeling so you can feel it and then move to openhearted self. She talks about the importance of not just noticing the core emotion, but naming it, feeling it, staying with the sensation of it, all the way to the end of it, create fantasies to counter it (or things it evokes.) so that it can help you move to the openhearted state of the authentic self.

Sounds easy but of course like all worthwhile things, it is not. And yet it's simple.

Glad I read this one.

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Reading Progress

December 28, 2019 – Started Reading
December 28, 2019 – Shelved
December 29, 2019 – Finished Reading

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