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Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed by Jonas A. Horwitz
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it was amazing

Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed is the perfect book for the average male who struggles with symptoms of depression. It offers a concise, an easy to digest, and an evidence-based summary of the nature of depression ("the beast"), as well as the cognitive-behavioral interventions that "starve the beast."

The book urges men to take severe depression seriously, which is vital given that middle age men die by suicide more than any other age group. Recognizing the men may minimize and invalidate their symptoms, the book suggests men "treat it with deep respect." The book also conjures up helpful images to help men make sense of depression, including gems like seeing severe depression "like carrying a two-ton monkey on your back everywhere you go." Unfortunately, untreated depression can quickly become an "all-consuming syndrome that seeks to feed itself."

The book outlines healthy, productive ways to cope with depression, including methods of behaving, thinking, managing emotions, and self-care (e.g., healthy diet, regular exercise, and proper sleep). Given that many men choose to drink or use other drugs, the book shares essential concerns about using alcohol or other drugs when depressed, as well as advice for seeking appropriate treatment for substance use disorders. The book carefully describes critical concepts relevant to the treatment of depression, including cognitive distortions (e.g., catastrophizing, fortune telling, overgeneralizing, black-or-white thinking), mindfulness, and acceptance. The advice regarding avoidance, procrastination, and perfectionism is constructive and consistent with research showing a steady increase in perfectionism among adults and teens over time.

Given the tendency of men to isolate or avoid intimacy and openness when depressed, the book focuses extensively on the value of deep interpersonal connections. Several strategies aim to help free men from the possible prison of social isolation that often coincides with depression. I found the approach for assertive speaking helpful because it recognizes the value of asking for help and support.

The book wraps up by providing a helpful overview of the potential avenues for treatment of depression, including medication and psychotherapy. Useful websites and books for readers offer a path for readers to go deep or seek help.

Thanks to the publisher for letting me enjoy this ride via Net Galley before it officially debuts with the public this fall.
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Reading Progress

September 12, 2018 – Started Reading
September 12, 2018 – Shelved
September 12, 2018 –
page 14
September 13, 2018 –
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September 14, 2018 –
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September 14, 2018 –
September 15, 2018 – Finished Reading

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