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Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
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Let me start my review by stating that, people are blessed in many ways. Some are intellectuals and some are emotionally intelligent. You can’t have everything or be everything at the same time, but the cool thing is: you can build, you can evolve and change.
I loved this book, for what it is. A guide to those who are emotionally troubled, or have no previous training or knowledge when it comes to handling their emotions.
I’m not saying that this book is going to radically change your life, and that once you read it you’ll be a messiah of some sort or whatever. Clearly, if someone is deeply troubled they’d have to seek therapy and meds if they have any history of mental illness so that’s not what I’m advocating this book for, it should in NO way substitute proper therapy.
On the contrary, I simply view this book, as more of a guide into how you can build your self emotionally, how you can control your emotional floss and what you should care about, especially if you have NO clue what you’re doing.
I’m guilty of most of these “self defeating coping mechanisms” that the author talks about, and it has made my life crazy for a while. I did procrastinate ever so often, I chased the love of people who weren’t my parents but I felt the notion is the same in this case, I held grudges, and Saying “yes” when I really wanted to say “no” just to make people like me etc... it definitely didn’t turn out to be in my favor.
I felt like a doormat for most of the time, so to have this book was a great tool for me. I learned so much, in such a short read. It was enjoyable. Of course, this wasn’t a magic fix, it did take me years to change and get over my “sins” but you can say that this book was the starting point for me. It has sound advice, it makes a lot of sense too. It resonated with me so well. I guess most of the stuff included are very obvious already, but to some of us it’s not that obvious, especially if you’re growing up and you’re still finding out who you are and how you fit into this world.
So overall, I liked it a lot. It did help me. It’s a useful read.
I loved this book, for what it is. A guide to those who are emotionally troubled, or have no previous training or knowledge when it comes to handling their emotions.
I’m not saying that this book is going to radically change your life, and that once you read it you’ll be a messiah of some sort or whatever. Clearly, if someone is deeply troubled they’d have to seek therapy and meds if they have any history of mental illness so that’s not what I’m advocating this book for, it should in NO way substitute proper therapy.
On the contrary, I simply view this book, as more of a guide into how you can build your self emotionally, how you can control your emotional floss and what you should care about, especially if you have NO clue what you’re doing.
I’m guilty of most of these “self defeating coping mechanisms” that the author talks about, and it has made my life crazy for a while. I did procrastinate ever so often, I chased the love of people who weren’t my parents but I felt the notion is the same in this case, I held grudges, and Saying “yes” when I really wanted to say “no” just to make people like me etc... it definitely didn’t turn out to be in my favor.
I felt like a doormat for most of the time, so to have this book was a great tool for me. I learned so much, in such a short read. It was enjoyable. Of course, this wasn’t a magic fix, it did take me years to change and get over my “sins” but you can say that this book was the starting point for me. It has sound advice, it makes a lot of sense too. It resonated with me so well. I guess most of the stuff included are very obvious already, but to some of us it’s not that obvious, especially if you’re growing up and you’re still finding out who you are and how you fit into this world.
So overall, I liked it a lot. It did help me. It’s a useful read.
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Finished Reading
October 20, 2017
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