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They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera
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it was ok
bookshelves: arc, lgbtqiap, contemporary, young-adult, own-voices, romance, read-in-2018, buddy-reads

ARC provided by the publisher via Edelweiss in exchange for an honest review.

“You may be born into a family, but you walk into friendships. Some you’ll discover you should put behind you. Others are worth every risk.”

Hey, friends! I’m so sorry! I really wanted to love this, but this just wasn’t a book for me. I think some of the lines were so beautiful, and I love the overall message of living your life, every day, to the fullest, but I just could never connect with this story the way that I know so many of my friends have.

They Both Die at the End is a story about two boys, who live in a world where technology will let you know when you will die within twenty-four hours. And sadly, two boys just received the call that informed them. And throughout the book we get to see how their lives intertwine and come together for their last day.

Trigger and content warnings for loss of a parent, loss of a sibling, loss of a friend, depictions of grief and trauma, violence, abuse, talk of animal death, a terrorist attack/murder suicide, suicide attempt, talk of suicide, and a whole lot of talk about death.

“Death is inevitable for everyone and it’s absolute for me today.”

Things that may have been a factor of why I didn’t like this book:

➽ I don’t like “magic systems” that aren’t explained. I never have, and I never will. This reads exactly like a contemporary with one unknown fantasy element. Also, I think it’s kind of cruel that they don’t give people the option of not knowing. Even if medical staff always knew, I think that a person should be able to pick if they want to know when they are going to die. But yeah, I needed to know how or why they were able to predict these deaths. Even if the answer was “oh my gosh, an alien came down and gave us this machine” because even that would have been enough for me.

➽ I honestly hated the ending with Mateo. And, again, I just can’t suspend my disbelief enough that a boy that has been living his life in a paranoid state would do that. I just, I just can’t believe it. I know it is a beautiful message about how we all don’t know how we are going to die, and it could be something easy or something we would never expect. But, like, it just felt really unpleasant to read.

➽ I really didn’t like reading about how people use Death-Cast to try to hook up with people they know are dying, probably because then they don’t have to come out. I get that itthat would totally happen in our world, but it still made my stomach sick to think about. Especially towards super young adults like Mateo and Rufus.

➽ I do not read a lot of contemporary. But right before this book I read Radio Silence and Autoboyography, both of which I gave five glowing stars to. That would hurt any book that I had to read after them, and I feel so bad that TBDATE had to be that book.

➽ A booktuber did a vlog of them upset after reading because the title was real. Which, like, I’m probably being all kinds of petty, but the title was always most likely going to be real. But because of the way this book is told kind of questioning Death-Cast and seeing all the people it is impacting, I think I might have been hopeful and enjoyed this more, if I didn’t have it *spoiled* for me.

What I did really like about this book:

➽ The writing. Adam’s writing is lyrical, but also very fast paced. Even though I didn’t love this book, it never felt like a chore to read. And there were so many quotable lines throughout this novel.

➽ I also really liked the cute romance that started to brew between these boys. And I’m always here for LGBTQIAP romances! I loved that Mateo was gay and that Rufus was bisexual. I also loved that both boys were people of color; Rufus being Cuban-American and Mateo being Puerto Rican.

➽ I loved every scene with Mateo’s dad. Call me a masochist, what can I say? Those scenes were one of two that made me cry. (The other being with Rufus talked about what happened to his family.) And I am actually hard pressed to think of anything sadder than waking up and finding out your child is no longer with you. But these scenes were so beautiful and gave me all the feels in the world.

➽ I liked seeing the random people that were just living their day along side Mateo and Rufus. When I look back, I feel like it might have been a tiny bit pointless, but I still really enjoyed the glimpses and thought they were so unique. And it really helps enforce that everyone has so much going on inside them, and that you’ll never know what crosses a person is bearing merely by sitting next to them in a subway.

➽ The message about how we really should be living our lives to the fullest and try to not live it being scared to die. I feel really impacted by both of these themes. Probably TMI (like always), but my father had a really bad heart attack (STEMI) a few years ago where they didn’t think he was going to make it. I immediately flew home, and I still feel a little bad at how much of an uncontrollable, weeping, hot mess I was all through LAS, but he was awake by the time I landed in Flint. And I ended up taking off work and staying an entire month to help take care of him, just spend time with my dad and not take it for granted. And I will never forget how thankful I was, or that feeling, for the rest of my life. But I also developed really bad panic attacks and anxiety where I feel like I’m having a heart attack at least once a week, still, a few years later. I don’t even know what I’m trying to stay, other than I connected with both of these boys, the one thankful for even twenty-four more hours, and the one that is scared to leave his bedroom.

➽ And since I just told you all the worst moment of my life, I will tell you another story about why this book did resonate with me. I’ve played World of Warcraft for over a decade, and a friend that I raided with for many, many years knew that he was dying because of cancer. We all had a little guild celebration for him before he quit, and after he (in game) mailed us so many of his prized wow possessions and wrote very kind letters attached. His wife let us know via Facebook when he passed away, and it broke me so very hard. But I will cherish that letter for the rest of my life, and my Darkmoon Rabbit that I named Davien (after him)!

Damn, friends, I think I got way too personal with those last paragraphs. Why am I like this? But overall, I am sad I didn’t love my first Adam Silvera book! But I’m going to keep reading his work(s) and hopefully fall in love. Again, I truly do connect with his writing style, so I have high hopes. I also just feel bad that I didn’t love this beloved book of so many of my friends. Also, you should check out their reviews, because I love them and this book meant a lot to them: May, Courtney, Lilly, Emma, Em, Sana, & Elise! You all know I hate writing “negative” reviews! So, I hope you all check out their reviews and celebrate them! Happy reading, loves!

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The quotes above were taken from an ARC and are subject to change upon publication.

Buddy read with Courtney at Curly Book Owl, May at Forever and Everly, & Lily at Sprinkles of Dreams! ❤
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Reading Progress

August 8, 2017 – Shelved
August 8, 2017 – Shelved as: to-read
August 15, 2017 – Shelved as: arc
August 15, 2017 – Shelved as: lgbtqiap
August 15, 2017 – Shelved as: contemporary
August 15, 2017 – Shelved as: young-adult
August 15, 2017 – Shelved as: own-voices
August 15, 2017 – Shelved as: romance
April 13, 2018 – Shelved as: read-in-2018
April 13, 2018 – Shelved as: buddy-reads
June 20, 2018 – Started Reading
June 25, 2018 – Finished Reading

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Lilflute3 That books amazing!

alana ♡ This one was SO good! I hope you love it!

message 3: by Sandra (new)

Sandra Since I trust your taste and reviews, I can’t wait to see what you think about this book. I DNFed it, it was boring. but I may give it a second chance based on your opinion.

Avery Delany Oh nooooooooo

Lea (drumsofautumn) I feel you! Excited to read more of your thoughts!

message 6: by Tiffany (new)

Tiffany ugh that's depressing

J & J I had this on my shelf at school this year and only 3 students read it but all three said they didn't really like it :(

Ruby Chan Nah,I don’t think this book was that great too.Adam Silvera’s writing really is too average for me to feel Any emotions and his world building is non-existent.

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Yusra  ✨ aw i’m sorry you didn’t love this! i’ve been seeing nothing but positive reviews for this so it’s kinda a breath of relief to see something more critical about it. hope your next reads are better!! :)

Melanie @ everyone - Yeah, I'm sorry I didn't love this one. Trust me, no one feels more awful than I do! But thank you all for being so lovely! And I hope whatever you all are reading right now is five star worthy! 💗xx

Sarah This is my least favorite Silvera book-which I still gave three starts to, so it wasn't terrible even with its flaws-so hopefully you'll like his other works better!

Melanie Sarah wrote: "This is my least favorite Silvera book-which I still gave three starts to, so it wasn't terrible even with its flaws-so hopefully you'll like his other works better!"

This actually REALLY makes me feel so much better, Sarah! Thank you so very much! And I hope whatever you're currently reading is five star worthy! 💗xx

Lea (drumsofautumn) SAME about the magic system! I was constantly thinking about how this works instead of following the actual storyline!

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Elle (ellexamines) aaaah, thanks for the review! I love a lot of what you said here - the end of the pros section is of course perfect, and I also kind of relate to the bit about not having hope for them to live. I think that would have hurt my enjoyment of the book too, honestly?

Melanie Lea (drumsofautumn) wrote: "SAME about the magic system! I was constantly thinking about how this works instead of following the actual storyline!"

Thank you for this validation, my love! Haha! But no, really, I hope you're having the happiest reading, Lea! 💗xx

Melanie Elise wrote: "aaaah, thanks for the review! I love a lot of what you said here - the end of the pros section is of course perfect, and I also kind of relate to the bit about not having hope for them to live. I t..."

Awh, thank YOU for being so kind. I feel like me and you normally always have the same favs, so yesterday was just a hot mess of me questioning my reading-self! Haha! But you're such a blessing and I'm always honored to call you my friend! I love youuu! 💗xx

message 17: by Elle (new) - rated it 5 stars

Elle (ellexamines) yeah, I feel like this one is just... super polarizing, even among people with similar tastes. I’m sad you didn’t like it, but I get it. I hope your next book is better, and I love you 💜

Mariah Roze Our Diversity in All Forms Book Club is reading this for September. We’d love to have you join the discussion on it. :)

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