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How to Win Friends and Influence People
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bookshelves: philosophy, 1970s, 2013, books-on-books, classic, education, favorites, psychology, worth-reading-over-and-over, biography, non-fiction, 2014, humor, self-help, youth
Apr 14, 2008
bookshelves: philosophy, 1970s, 2013, books-on-books, classic, education, favorites, psychology, worth-reading-over-and-over, biography, non-fiction, 2014, humor, self-help, youth
Re-read (or rather re-listened to) this, as I promised myself I was going to do when I got it last year. I really think the title is misleading. It should be something like, How to Have Healthier, Happier and More Positive Relationships with People.
This time I actually got to put some of the principles of this book into practice when tutoring an unwilling 7th grader. Receiving D's and F's and reading at 3rd grade level, "M" is not unintelligent. She is just one (of the many) child(ren) pushed through the system ready or not.
Anyway, when M failed to respond to my charming personality, I realized that I needed to find what interested and motivated her. Ever since, we have been gradually building a relationship based on who she is, what she wants, and how I can help her. Admittedly I started at a very low level (candy for good performance!) but it got her attention and we are slowly making progress, little by little each week. Anyway, she at least talks to me now and doesn't hide behind her long hair anymore. This last week I challenged her to show me her first test or quiz, in any class, above 80% and promised an unspecified reward.
Thank you Mr. Carnegie!
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Recently a good friend and colleague told me how much this book helped her and I remembered how much I enjoyed it when I first read it (years ago). As I could hardly remember any specifics from that distant time—only the overall favorable impression—I learned a great deal from this reread.
The author and my friend both recommend returning to the principles of this book at least once @ year. Based on my own desire to have happy and positive human relations I agree this is a worthwhile book. I hope to make reading/listening to it something I do every January. We all need to get along and this book is chock full of helpful ideas for improving all of our relations with others. It isn't about using other people to get what we want, except insofar as we learn how to achieve happy, loving relationship(s), mutual respect and peaceful homes/workplaces.
Highly recommended!
This time I actually got to put some of the principles of this book into practice when tutoring an unwilling 7th grader. Receiving D's and F's and reading at 3rd grade level, "M" is not unintelligent. She is just one (of the many) child(ren) pushed through the system ready or not.
Anyway, when M failed to respond to my charming personality, I realized that I needed to find what interested and motivated her. Ever since, we have been gradually building a relationship based on who she is, what she wants, and how I can help her. Admittedly I started at a very low level (candy for good performance!) but it got her attention and we are slowly making progress, little by little each week. Anyway, she at least talks to me now and doesn't hide behind her long hair anymore. This last week I challenged her to show me her first test or quiz, in any class, above 80% and promised an unspecified reward.
Thank you Mr. Carnegie!
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Recently a good friend and colleague told me how much this book helped her and I remembered how much I enjoyed it when I first read it (years ago). As I could hardly remember any specifics from that distant time—only the overall favorable impression—I learned a great deal from this reread.
The author and my friend both recommend returning to the principles of this book at least once @ year. Based on my own desire to have happy and positive human relations I agree this is a worthwhile book. I hope to make reading/listening to it something I do every January. We all need to get along and this book is chock full of helpful ideas for improving all of our relations with others. It isn't about using other people to get what we want, except insofar as we learn how to achieve happy, loving relationship(s), mutual respect and peaceful homes/workplaces.
Highly recommended!
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Reading Progress
April 14, 2008
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May 4, 2008
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philosophy
January 26, 2013
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worth-reading-over-and-over
January 26, 2013
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1970s
January 26, 2013
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2013
January 26, 2013
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books-on-books
January 26, 2013
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classic
January 26, 2013
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education
January 26, 2013
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favorites
January 26, 2013
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psychology
February 22, 2013
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biography
February 22, 2013
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non-fiction
September 16, 2014
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December 1, 2014
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December 5, 2014
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2014
December 5, 2014
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humor
December 5, 2014
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self-help
December 5, 2014
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youth
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Apr 15, 2008 06:44AM
I did listen to this on tape:) Does that count Cathy:)
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I think you will like it. Carnegie did a tremendous amount of research on this book and it's certainly stood the test of time. Listening to it was like attending a how-to seminar on 'The Golden Rule'.
I read this book sometimes back but i didn't finish it.I have seen your review and remembered how much I enjoyed it. I will make a point of re-reading it.
I agree entirely with your review. I first encountered this book when I was in awe of how my dormitory room mate connected with everyone he met. He pointed me to this book. Before I read it, someone else said that it taught you to manipulate people. The book isn't about manipulation at all; it teaches you to take a genuine interest in others with the promise that you will benefit from everyone you meet. Maybe that's an overgeneralization on my part, but the book has had a big impact on my life.
Plain ole' uncommon common sense.
