Reading this with a work group, one part a month, so this will linger a while and I'll just add some bits I marked.
"To unlock the joy of being wrong, Reading this with a work group, one part a month, so this will linger a while and I'll just add some bits I marked.
"To unlock the joy of being wrong, we need to detach. I've learned that two kinds of detachment are especially useful: detaching your present from your past and detaching your opinions from your identity." (62) <-- particularly good since detach is my word for the year!
"Who you are should be a question of what you value, not what you believe... When [you] define [yourself] by values rather than opinions, [you] buy [yourself] the flexibility to update [your] practices in light of new evidence." (64)
Well I am not happy about the authorship of this one but it's good: "People who are right a lot listen a lot, and they change their mind a lot." -Jeff Bezos (72)
Disagreeable people, love this section, this is me.
"Disagreeable people tend to be more critical, skeptical, and challenging... They're not just comfortable with conflict; it energizes them." (82)
"There's evidence that disagreeable people speak up more frequently - especially when leaders aren't receptive - and foster more task conflict... They give the critical feedback we might not want to hear, but need to hear." (83)
"Don't agree to disagree... Tension is intellectual, not emotional... The tone is vigorous and feisty rather than combative or aggressive... They don't disagree just for the sake of it; they disagree because they care." (88)
"Disagreeable people don't just challenge us to think again. They also make agreeable people comfortable arguing, too. Instead of fleeing from friction, our grumpy colleagues engage it directly. By making it clear that they can handle a tussle, they create a norm for the rest of us to follow." (90)...more