This book has some good things to say about addressing common mental roadblocks to weight loss. That is definitely the books greatest strength. It isThis book has some good things to say about addressing common mental roadblocks to weight loss. That is definitely the books greatest strength. It is also very reasonable and practical in its recommended weight loss plan and definitely takes thoroughly into account the weaknesses and foibles of human nature. Those parts were good, but I thought the methodology of the plan itself was mediocre. With the apps and technology that exist now there are simpler and better ways to track calories and nutrition and exercise etc....more
A sobering, powerful, hopeful book about overcoming pornography addiction written by a Latter-day Saint who is also a neurosurgeon. It also contains mA sobering, powerful, hopeful book about overcoming pornography addiction written by a Latter-day Saint who is also a neurosurgeon. It also contains many personal accounts from other people who are recovering from pornography addiction, the spouses of those recovering from addiction, and so forth.
This book is basically split in half with the first half largely addressing the physical nature and effects of pornography addiction and how they need to be addressed in order for recovery to occur, and then the second half is about the spiritually destructive nature of pornography addiction and what needs to occur spiritually for repentance and total recovery to occur. It also addresses a lot of common misconceptions about pornography and pornography addiction and has sections giving specific counsel to pornography addicts -- both men and women, spouses dealing with the the trauma of betrayal and problems with codependency, ecclesiastical leaders who are counseling addicts and spouses, etc
The author spends the physical part of the book explaining the nature of pornography addiction and how pornography use affects several structures of the brain and causes a vicious, destructive, increasingly addictive cycle as the brain essentially overdoses itself on dopamine each time the behavior is repeated, which negatively affects other areas of the brain, which then causes a negative feedback loop type thing, and it escalates and the damage to the brain becomes worse and worse as the behavior is repeated. He also talked about the role of some other elements of the cycle like adrenaline and oxytocin and how the part of the brain that controls willpower will actually shrink in the brains of those who are addicted. He then explains what kinds of effects and behaviors typically happen as a result of these changes to the brain. He then talks about how if the progress of the addiction is halted the brain may eventually be able to heal itself and revert back to a normal healthy state because of the brains neuroplasticity, or ability to change. He talks about what needs to happen for the brain to experience total recovery from the damage of addiction.
The spiritual half of the book talks about the fact that repentance and being forgiven does not necessarily equate to total recovery and addresses what needs to happen to experience total recovery. He also talks about isolation and dishonesty and some of the other spiritually destructive effects that pornography can have and how they need to be addressed. In my opinion this was the meatiest part of the book where most persons will probably find the help that they are looking for in reading such a volume. The physical half of the book really lays a foundation for understanding what he is saying needs to happen and why, so read the whole thing for sure. Most importantly, both the author and all of the personal accounts of addicts in recovery testify unequivocally of the hope of recovery through Jesus Christ and his merciful atoning sacrifice. The many stories of the recovering addicts are extremely sobering as they describe how their out of control pornography addiction in many cases totally destroyed their marriages and in many cases their careers and their whole live, as well as spiritually and emotionally eating them from the inside out. Their faith and optimism and stories of recovery are inspiring and hopeful. There is an obvious pattern in their stories for how each one was finally able to overcome addiction and experience recovery.
The appendices of the book are largely composed of more stories and personal accounts of people and their experience in recovering from pornography. These include stories of both men and women recovering from addiction, their spouses, ecclesiastical leaders, etc and each story from each viewpoint has its own fascinating and significant insights. The total understanding is greater than the sum of the individual parts through these stories.
It is very sobering to become awakened to the terribly evil and destructive effects of pornography and how widespread and widely accepted it is. It is also very inspiring to read the true stories of people's lives being transformed from addicted to pornography and in the blackest abyss I can conceive of to lives of joy, healing, peace, and freedom from addiction.
I would highly recommend this book to anyone who struggles with pornography use or for the loved ones of those who do. There is a lot here to help you, in a very approachable style. The one chapter about the parts of the brain and how the cycle of addiction works was a little hard to follow for me as a non-scientist, but at the end he summarizes it really well and I could understand it okay....more