The author makes a good case for the fact that her mother was a liar, until Ms. Scheier believes her mother wRaises Questions Which Are Never Answered
The author makes a good case for the fact that her mother was a liar, until Ms. Scheier believes her mother when she is told who her "real" father is. How does she know for sure? I kept expecting the DNA results to solve that mystery...but the author can't bear to take a DNA test. So, her liar mom told her the truth at least once? Without going into other details of the book, that was the one thing that made no sense at all. ...more
You wouldn't think that reading about someone's (extreme, horrifying, painful) medical travails would have you laughing throughout this book, but I diYou wouldn't think that reading about someone's (extreme, horrifying, painful) medical travails would have you laughing throughout this book, but I did just that. Intermittently, I cringed at all that Fred went through. His talent for nicknaming everyone was hilarious, and he somehow wove in bon mots with stories of hellacious medical blunders. Fred is sold on intermittent fasting, something I have done for several years, but not to the extent that he has (mine is more 8 window, 16 fast). It does make a difference, and I am happy that it helped him. Sounds weird, but I haven't laughed so much in a long time reading a book - especially one filled with medical horror stories. I think for me, this was a first. I wish Fred nothing but good health from now on - he's been through enough!!! ...more
“Bay Area Stand-Up Comedy” is like a delicious, informational appetizer - sort of the “Reader’s Digest Condensed version” of local comedy history. The“Bay Area Stand-Up Comedy” is like a delicious, informational appetizer - sort of the “Reader’s Digest Condensed version” of local comedy history. The first chapter starts with a time before there was stand-up comedy. Now, I couldn’t say for certain that the Ohlone and Miwok tribes didn’t have some form of entertainment where one of the tribe members got up and told funny stories, but I guess this book touches on the official beginnings of local stand-up and beyond. My own memories of viewing stand-up acts was in the 1950s, when Jack Benny, Burns & Allen, Henry Young, Milton Berle, Red Skelton, and others appeared on our tiny black-and-white RCA tv. What fun! I think that Nina G. and OJ Patterson (both stand up comedians) gave a good overview of the performers and venues in each chapter, enough to satisfy most any attention span. I am a native San Franciscan who enjoyed witnessing the evolution of comedy through the decades, so this book covered many of my favorites(too many to mention by name). Half of the events I attended as an adult were comedy shows, and I never missed Alex Bennett’s radio show, which had a huge impact on the local comedy scene. My daughter grew up listening to and viewing Bay Area stand-up comedians, too. “Bay Area Stand-Up Comedy” is bot a joke book, but rather a helpful be a reference on the subject. ...more
I bought this book when told of all the familiar places the author referenced in her memoir. I grew up in Pacifica, and lived for many years in Moss BI bought this book when told of all the familiar places the author referenced in her memoir. I grew up in Pacifica, and lived for many years in Moss Beach, so figured it would be fun to check it out. Once I read the first chapter, I realized that those places weren’t the only thing that was familiar. I could identify with some of Lauren’s accounts of her childhood traumas and family dysfunction, though, to quote Leo Tolstoy, "All happy families are alike, but every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." I never had the courage to write about my own story - who wants to live through that, again? - but somehow Lauren found the courage, and perhaps the need to share her account, to help herself and others. Some of the incidents with Lauren's father and stepfather - interchangeable for the reader, as they both share similar traits, smells (cigarettes, alcohol) and ways of speaking - read like grittier scenes from the film: “Paper Moon”. Lauren's mother is emotionally absent, except for periodic rages. She is verbally and physically abusive, so is not a protector; in fact, her mother continues to put her children in harm's way. Once the author was finally on her own, her behavior and choices in her young adult life reflected those formative experiences (as it would with anyone). Eventually, through a triggering event, Lauren finds her way to healing and forgiveness. In spite of the painful theme of this story, Lauren's "Sh!thouse" was an enjoyable read, with vivid and often novel detail in her descriptions. These to me are the hallmark of a gifted storyteller. This memoir could also be helpful for those who need to know that there is hope after getting a less than ideal start in life....more
This memoir covers a lot of ground (so to speak), of how one person learned more about herself from a lifeInspiring Account of Survival and Friendship
This memoir covers a lot of ground (so to speak), of how one person learned more about herself from a life-threatening accident in the desert than she could have in years of therapy. Without giving the story away, themes include depression, pain, solitude, loneliness, survival, friendship…and love of life. We know that the author survived what so many have not - we just don’t know how, until we near the end of the book. Couldn’t put it down until finished. ...more
This book was a delight to read. As a genuine animal lover, the author is obviously in her element, which is not to say that she doesn't have some chaThis book was a delight to read. As a genuine animal lover, the author is obviously in her element, which is not to say that she doesn't have some challenges while performing her duties as an animal control officer. Written with intelligence and humor, Shirley takes you along with her as she investigates and solves one crisis after another. The variety of animals Shirley comes in contact with ranges from dogs and cats to pigs, horses, raccoons, skunks, opossums, sheep, and reptiles. I learned a few things from Ms. Zindler, as well, including the fact that opossums' brains are smooth and simple, and that a deer can be extricated from the bars of a fence by squeezing the rib cage from the front of the deer (not the rear)to fit through. Because of the nature of her work, not every case will make you laugh. Some situations will bring sadness or anger (not at the animals, but at their human keepers). However, there will be success stories, which Shirley helps to make happen - all in a (long) day's work! There were a few times when Ms. Zindler went into dangerous situations (mostly because of humans), where I thought she was nuts to proceed! Her relationship with her dog Luci was especially poignant. I recommend this book to anyone who loves animals, has a special pet(s), or just wants to read about an interesting profession....more
At first, the disappearance of Mike Williams, as tragic as it was, doesn't appear all that unusual. A dGripping Tale of a Mother's Quest for the Truth
At first, the disappearance of Mike Williams, as tragic as it was, doesn't appear all that unusual. A duck hunter falls out of a boat, and seemingly drowns. But once it has been established that his body hadn't been found, Mike's mother Cheryl can't accept the official verdict that his body was consumed by alligators. Adding to her conviction that her son was still alive were messages from God. "Evil at Lake Seminole" leads us through Cheryl's tortured journey to discover what really had happened to her son. Steven B. Epstein fills in the details, a bit at a time, to help unravel the mystery, to its ultimate conclusion.
When you read a memoir, it really helps to like the author. Rob Caughlan starts out writing about his love of surfing and gives us a short lesson on tWhen you read a memoir, it really helps to like the author. Rob Caughlan starts out writing about his love of surfing and gives us a short lesson on the history of surfing. However, he is far from the "surfer" stereotype as depicted by Sean Penn's "Spicoli" in "Fast Times at Ridgemont High" (which he references in the book). He's intelligent, accomplished and engaged, giving us an insider's details about working with politicians and celebrities. His career as an environmental activist led him into several arenas where he played a key role in making changes for our environment, for the better. Local references abound for someone like myself, a 5th-generation San Francisco native who grew up in Pacifica - did he say that he liked surfing at Pedro Point? That he was part of the fight for access to Martin's Beach? I lived in the Half Moon Bay area during those years. He was president of the Surfrider Foundation? That was one of the benefits that I included when I curated an art show at the local art gallery in Half Moon Bay. Though the book is not that long - 189 pages - it covers a lot of territory.
Reading "A Surfer in the White House" gave me a real appreciation for Congressman Pete McClosky, whose partnership with Wisconsin Democratic Sen. Gaylord Nelson gave us Earth Day. Caughlan's anecdotes about so many of the people he worked and was friends with are the spice of the book. I especially liked his accounts about his freight train adventures, and the stories about William Shatner's contributions to promote endangered species preservation. But Rob's emphasis on becoming involved in environmental issues is especially important. Pete McClosky is worth several books, alone; I am now inspired to read his "The Taking of Hill 610: And Other Essays on Friendship." I don't want to give away every subject in the book, but those are just teasers. Check it out - you won't regret it....more
I was inspired to read this book, after visiting the Tabott Motorcycle Museum in Carmel Valley, CA., and seeing the beautiful bike that Cross had donaI was inspired to read this book, after visiting the Tabott Motorcycle Museum in Carmel Valley, CA., and seeing the beautiful bike that Cross had donated. Cross doesn't give much information about why he started out in the biker lifestyle, but this really isn't an introspective memoir; it's more anecdotal accounts of Phil's life as a biker, his membership in two clubs, his many wrecks (only a few described), run-ins with the law, imprisonment, buddies, hanging out with celebrities like Willie Nelson and John Belushi, and the numerous fights he engaged in. He dedicates some ink in the book to his wife, though it's written in the least romantic way that one can write. Don't look for emotion here, but then he's a Hell's Angel, what was I expecting?
So, though I truly don't understand what "motorvated" Cross in his life, it was entertaining. One horrifying account about a skydiving accident made me wonder about the effect that might have had on him, but as mentioned prior, Cross doesn't reveal too much of an emotional nature. Many of the stories were of the head-shaking variety, and there was one off-putting comment-Cross' derogatory description of a fellow prisoner (woman) at Terminal Island, who was pregnant - which was unnecessarily cruel enough to lose a star in my review. Look, you can be a tad decent, even if you are a 1 percenter outlaw biker! Otherwise, this was a fascinating read from an interesting "F.B.I.'s Most Wanted" character. ...more
This memoir about two sisters is also about a mom and daughter; they are the same people. Andrea has custody of her "kiddo" Adrienne, because their moThis memoir about two sisters is also about a mom and daughter; they are the same people. Andrea has custody of her "kiddo" Adrienne, because their mother is not able to take care of her daughter (more about that in the book), and Adrienne's father is deceased.
When author Andrea Wilson Woods finds out that her beloved younger sister/daughter has a rare liver cancer, she does everything possible within her means to cure - or at least buy time - for 15-year-old Adrienne. Mapped out in a series of days, we read about various medical treatments involved in slowing down the tumors, including an ever-lengthening list of medications needed. As time goes on, the reality is that many of these cancer treatments have side-effects that are worse than the disease itself. Andrea, with the help of her boyfriend John (who is a father figure for Adrienne) endeavors to mitigate those effects with other medications and treatments prescribed by Adrienne's physicians.
Lighthearted moments with humor and joy thread through the chapters, too: Arienne gets to meet up with her favorite musician, twice! She also strives to live her days as fully as she can. Her sister/mother Andrea does everything possible to prolong Adrienne's life, and to bring any amount of happiness to her sister, while she can. This book is ultimately about infinite love. As one who lost a sister at 16 and a brother to cancer, there was no way that I could close this book without shedding quite a few tears myself....more
Author Malcom Gladwell cites numerous examples of high achievement which could not have been obtained without a good portion of luck involved. His argAuthor Malcom Gladwell cites numerous examples of high achievement which could not have been obtained without a good portion of luck involved. His arguments include timing of birth, location, upbringing and environment. His book "Outliers" belies the old saying: "There is simply no substitute for hard work when it comes to achieving success." Good fortune is almost never credited for its role in high levels of success, even though it might be, if not the main factor, the deciding factor. ...more
Couldn't put this one down! I REALLY felt for the author, and identified with parts of her story. Dianne Lake and I are of the same generation (I am 2Couldn't put this one down! I REALLY felt for the author, and identified with parts of her story. Dianne Lake and I are of the same generation (I am 2 years older), and grew up in a time of enormous change. Like Dianne, I had neglectful, abusive parents. Like Dianne, I was raped and beaten many times as a child (she by Manson, me by my father), and went through that self-blame which occurs with abuse victims. In 1968, I ran away from home (to Southern California, no less), to get away from trauma and abuse, and met some opportunists along the way (they can suss out the vulnerable, especially the young). I was arrested and incarcerated, and ultimately returned to my abusers. I was a "hippie" and part of counterculture activities, and understand the mindset of that part of my generation. I remember the "vibe". I also know how hallucinogens can distort ones' judgement, called "mind expansion" by proponents - not always a negative, of course, but leaves some individuals - especially young persons with little or no love and support - vulnerable to the likes of charismatic con-men like Manson. Easy to understand when you read Dianne's book how she was brainwashed.
The reason that I preface my review with a few of these personal details is that I read some of the other reviews of this book, and realize that a few of them just DON'T GET IT enough to empathize and perceive what this young woman really went through. Dianne tells her story in a simple, direct way, including the most horrific events, with concise descriptions. I am not surprised that she became an educator later in life.
Though I am an Atheist, I understand Dianne's need for her faith, which was a source of strength for her, especially when she had nothing else to grab onto. I am happy that she made it out of the hellhole with the help of some good people, her Higher Power, and herself. This book underscores the fact that if children are not raised with love and fairness by their parents, they are open to finding that love elsewhere - whether it be from a cult like the Manson Family, or some other destructive entities. I read Bugliosi's book "Helter Skelter" years ago, but am inspired to read it again, this time with an added dimension to the story....more
What a great writer Joe McGinness is! This book would have been an excellent piece of fiction, based just upon the lines that the characters exchange.What a great writer Joe McGinness is! This book would have been an excellent piece of fiction, based just upon the lines that the characters exchange. "Blind Faith" was an interesting read, in spite of the obviously manufactured dialogue, which of course is the author's speculation on how it might have played out. I guess it has to be that way, since quoting verbatim from actual events is near-to-impossible. No suspense in this one, either - obvious from the beginning who the perp was. The fact that the book inspired a film and is a best-seller shows that Joe McGuinness did something right. I found the book entertaining (the characters and the writing), and disturbing (for the circumstances). I had to Google the case after the read, to fill in the facts, and what became of the murderer and his sons, after the trial. ...more
**spoiler alert** "The Real Lolita" makes an excellent case that Vladimir Nabokov's novel "Lolita" was inspired by - and even based upon - the real-li**spoiler alert** "The Real Lolita" makes an excellent case that Vladimir Nabokov's novel "Lolita" was inspired by - and even based upon - the real-life story of Sally Horner, an 11-year-old girl who was kidnapped and raped repeatedly for almost 2-years, which made the news back in 1940. This connection was initially recognized by freelance reporter Peter Welding in 1963 in an article published in Nugget Magazine. Author Sarah Weinman takes the story further, expanding upon the facts in this case, while correcting some of the finer points mentioned in Welding's article.
Though Nabokov and his wife Vera denied that Horner's kidnapping story inspired "Lolita", Nabokov's hand-written notes and clippings found in his personal effects, plus a mountain of similarities between Sally and the character Lolita belie those assertions. All evidence supports the fact that the novel used parts of that news story in "Lolita". But even more interesting than Nabakov's struggles as a writer were the chapters dedicated to the child who inspired so much of Nabakov's prize-winning bestseller As one who went through childhood rape and abuse for a decade, I know how it feels to go through that terror and pain. Back in those years - as with my own abuses - one was considered "damaged" if not a virgin (women only, of course), knowing that it takes many years to overcome that stigma. When I read that some considered Sally a "slut" and "whore" because she was kidnapped and raped, I felt the insult-to-injury situation she must have lived through.
I read the novel "Lolita" many years ago, and was not a big fan of the book (never saw the film, as I didn't like the book), never realizing that it was inspired by more than just the famous author's imagination. Weinman sets the record straight- long overdue - by clarifying that the novel which depicted "Lolita" as a temptress, and the kidnapping pedophile Humbert as sympathetic was in reality an exploitation of a child's painful abduction and rape by a depraved criminal....more
"We Are the Cops" had some interesting and often eye-opening accounts of what law enforcement officers experience while serving the public. Included a"We Are the Cops" had some interesting and often eye-opening accounts of what law enforcement officers experience while serving the public. Included are gruesome descriptions of accidents and death, or explicit sexual details in the "Vice" section, which is the reality for many (if not most) cops, in their careers. It is easy to understand how police officers can become jaded and hardened to a degree, relying on black humor to relieve the stresses of working with the worst elements in our society. Some of the stories are funny - I enjoyed reading one cop's description of an escaped gorilla, for instance. Other accounts show that law enforcement officers can be compassionate, especially involving cases with children who are victimized. At times like these - or in the process of saving lives, the first responders, etc. - they are truly heroic. For those of us who wonder why anyone would take on this career, the book is a revelation in that these cops, by and large, do enjoy their work, and in fact, many do "love" their jobs.
My main gripe with this book by Michael Matthews is the British "voice" that comes through. The American accent is missing in these stories of American police officers, when the officer is quoted about his "neighbourhood" (neighborhood), "analysed" (analyzed), "defence" (defense) or "mum"(mom), etc. I suppose it would have been too difficult to change the spelling for American readers, but it was distracting for this American. Otherwise, a good sampling of accounts to make one realise...er..realize - that law enforcement isn't for everyone, but is the perfect job for those who stick with it....more
Roman Gilperin's observations on the causes of depression were initially inspired by the effects of one episode of depression that he had had as a teeRoman Gilperin's observations on the causes of depression were initially inspired by the effects of one episode of depression that he had had as a teen, after he was rejected by his girlfriend. If Roman had been a menstruating female, he would have had an in-depth knowledge of a type of depression caused by nothing more than the natural fluctuations of hormones on her brain chemistry during her monthly cycle. We learn that the blues can come from "out of the blue", with many episodes of depression, without any other precipitating factor. Though the author does touch upon biochemical and genetic causes for depression, he focuses more on psychotherapy and behavior modification.
In my own case (personalizing my review here), the cases of depression in my family which were not associated with grief or trauma were most often caused by genetics - biochemistry passed down through the generations. I also come from a generation that remembers when all mental illnesses were thought to be solely the result of bad parenting and childhood traumas, along with Freudian theories (some of which has been debunked), leading to inaccurate and often damaging conclusions and treatments. Methods of psychiatry can be nebulous, and not so clear-cut, without standard formulas to cure depression.
That being said, Gilperin does mention the fact that medications can work, though the trial-and-error process can be frustrating, to say the least. There is no "one size fits all" in depression. Gilperin, to his credit, also lists some life events which trigger depression, including traumatic loss or event. So, I was able to find enough information in this book that could be helpful, providing ideas for those who are suffering from depression - and even solutions, in some cases....more
My niece suggested that I read this book after I posted something on Facebook about marriages that don't last, and how times have changed when it comeMy niece suggested that I read this book after I posted something on Facebook about marriages that don't last, and how times have changed when it comes to relationships and dating. I didn't know the half of it! I'm 67, same age as one of those interviewed in a Senior Care facility in the book, and am pretty much consistent with their experiences. Meet and marry someone close by, etc.
There was actually a lot of information within the pages about the unlimited choices one has today with social media and various ways of communicating that we didn't have "back in the day", which is good and bad. Too much choice, you're always looking for the "perfect" one, but how do you know it? How much time do you have? The fear of settling down, because you might miss something. There are separate chapters on how other cultures (Paris, Tokyo and Argentina), deal with dating and romance, when was eye-opening. One of the most useful chapters was the section on passionate love and companionate love, but the best part of "Modern Romance" are Aziz' funny comments throughout the chapters, making this book a joy to read. :)...more
The author of this book - the bereaved father - had boundary issues, big-time. I felt suffocated reading about Roger's controlling behavior towards hiThe author of this book - the bereaved father - had boundary issues, big-time. I felt suffocated reading about Roger's controlling behavior towards his son Chase. "Why are you doing that?" I'd think, and cringe, as the author justified his actions when he admits following his teenage son through social media, and tries to encourage Chase to date the "nice" girl Wendy. The father's spying aspect takes on a creepy "peeping Tom" quality that seems inappropriate in a healthy parent-child relationship.
Darryl Rogers obviously loves his son, and I guess "A Life Half Lived" was a tribute to what he felt were Chase's best qualities - those of which Rogers approved - and what led to his son's downfall and death (drugs, the "wrong" activities and friends, etc.)
What was interesting is that the author appeared to be unaware that this book was more about him than about his son. I felt sad for the conclusion, for a father who loved his son, with the best intentions, but wound up losing Chase, in the end....more
Upbeat and sometimes hilarious memoir fill with anecdotes about working for an airline, a surfer husband, acting jobs, a pipe-wielding dog, celebritieUpbeat and sometimes hilarious memoir fill with anecdotes about working for an airline, a surfer husband, acting jobs, a pipe-wielding dog, celebrities, and an earthquake thrown in . . . for starters. An easy and fun read. ...more
I kept thinking that the book was more of a type of therapy for the author, rather than about the people he interviewed. So much was more about him thI kept thinking that the book was more of a type of therapy for the author, rather than about the people he interviewed. So much was more about him than his subjects. We get to learn who Judd Apatow is, I guess. He repeated anecdotes and information about his life, roommates, and philosophy. He interrupted his interviewees more often than not, though I suppose that is part of the natural "dialogue". I did enjoy the talk with Steve Allen - I laughed out loud reading that chapter, remembering how original, off-the-cuff and hilarious Allen's show was. So, that was worth the price of admission!...more
Highly engaging account of a son's love for his mother, and hers for him. This book is a journey for the reader, one with many paths laced with joy, sHighly engaging account of a son's love for his mother, and hers for him. This book is a journey for the reader, one with many paths laced with joy, sorrow, triumphs, humor, and most of all, forgiveness. If you take this journey, be aware that around each bend you might encounter a colorful character or two, time travel (memories), ambivalent familial relationships, lasting friendships, and noble helpers. You will also traverse the difficult terrain of cancer, with its anguish, pain, terror, and loss. You might even learn something along the way about cuisine, music, and the historic Camino de Santiago in Spain, where pilgrims go to great lengths to walk that long and often challenging road.
WARNING: Expect to laugh - expect to cry - but most of all - expect to be inspired.
I think I've enjoyed every book that Jon Krakauer has written. It helps that he has climbed mountains and had enough adventures to understand the persI think I've enjoyed every book that Jon Krakauer has written. It helps that he has climbed mountains and had enough adventures to understand the persons and subjects that he covers. The chapter on Mark Foo was especially engaging for me, since I live less than a mile from Maverick's. Krakauer's use of descriptive words is extravagant, which makes his storytelling a joy to read. The chapter about children's boot camps was a chilling, and a warning for parents. I'm looking forward to his next publication....more
Disturbing reading for anyone who enjoys American football, even worse for those who play, and their loved ones.
Author Jeanne Marie Laskas also paintDisturbing reading for anyone who enjoys American football, even worse for those who play, and their loved ones.
Author Jeanne Marie Laskas also paints detailed and sympathetic biography of Dr. Bennet Omalu, the Nigerian-American pathologist who discovered and defined CTE – Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy.
Omalu first discovered what happens to brain tissue after repeated concussions sustained in the majority of football players, after analyzing the brain tissue of former Pittsburgh Steelers player Mike Webster, and other pro football players (in one study, 76 out of 79 player brains showed signs of CTE). More disturbing than what Omalu finds is the reaction of the National Football League, which tried for years to deny and dismiss Omalu's findings. Despite this, Dr. Omalu persisted and continued to do his research, publicizing his studies (which are ongoing).
Repeated throughout this book is the fact that helmets - no matter how protective - do not protect the brain itself from being smashed up against the skull. The effects these injuries - some not detected for years - is often devastating.
What the reader must decide is whether the game of football is worth watching, considering the implications to players, which are described in this book. Whatever justification one may use, the answers are covered in "Concussion". Like Gladiatorial Games in ancient Roman coliseums, one must look away to enjoy and engage.
Further, this book should be required reading - sort of a "warning label" - for those who would participate in NFL football, or any other contact sport which involves repeated blows to the head - BEFORE they enter the arena....more
The title tells us right away that this story will not have a happy ending. Written in an easy, conversational style, the reader is first drawn in by The title tells us right away that this story will not have a happy ending. Written in an easy, conversational style, the reader is first drawn in by author Anitra Simmons’ engaging descriptions of her life before her husband Dean's disease took hold.
She had been married before, with children. However, she had never found the love of her life, until she met Dean. You know enough by reading the first chapter that this is a marriage that would have lasted for decades, to the end.
Well, it did last to the end....but too soon. The following chapters are filled with terror, anxiety and frustration, as Anitra and Dean wade through the medical system, looking for answers.
As is typical with cancer, no answers are easy, and often the treatments shorten life, and remove its quality in the process. The author is candid about having chosen the wrong methods in some cases, or making bad decisions that she wishes she could do over. These are the normal regrets that most have after such a loss, when looking in hindsight about what could have done differently.
In regards to loss due to cancer, there are hundreds of books written in fine detail about the process of living and dying with that disease. Many, if not most of us, have had loved ones with cancer.
I lost my brother to cancer when he was 48, my daughter-in-law at 43, my grandmothers, uncles, relatives and friends. It is ubiquitous, unfortunately, to the point of being common.
One might wonder, then, what this author has to offer, if her story is so common.
First, the reader benefits, should they ever have to deal with caring for a loved one with cancer. There is also helpful advice for the particular type of cancer that Dean had. Anitra shares specifics about Glioblastoma, its symptoms, and which treatments might be best. There are also numerous tips about dealing with the medical system, including whom to consult first (in this case, it is the oncologist), and information about the complications of certain treatments and therapies (including radiation treatment), where one might consider the alternatives.
The author paints her pain of loss throughout, in vivid detail. To try to ease that void and bring some sort of meaning to it all, Anitra consults two psychic mediums, hoping to communicate with Dean though them. The kind of loss she experienced is so devastating, that she gives it a try. Losing a loved one whom you had lived with has the added reminder of their absence in your everyday life. It’s harder to pretend that they are just away on a trip, etc. You depend upon them for a thousand little things that you might never have thought of before, as well as quite a few significant things.
The results of Anitra’s visits with the psychic mediums were surprising – at least for me – since I am a skeptic, and not inclined to think of these experiences as anything more than wishful thinking. However, it did turn out that Anitra benefitted greatly from consulting the psychics. Though their findings didn’t eradicate her grief, those experiences gave her hope and purpose for the future.
At the end of the book, one is invited to read Anitra's blog. I clicked on the link, and immediately learned of another great loss for her, on December 22, 2017 - 3 days ago, as I write this. I wished in a way that I hadn't clicked that link, as my heart is heavy for Anitra yet again, as she will need her faith now, more than ever. With that in mind, it is evident to me that though “Embracing Life From Death" is Anitra's Simmons' first book, I doubt that it will be her last. She has too much left to tell....more
There are two voices in this memoir - the author's and her mother (Jackie Carr)'s. Amber Lea Starfire offers an introduction to prepare the reader forThere are two voices in this memoir - the author's and her mother (Jackie Carr)'s. Amber Lea Starfire offers an introduction to prepare the reader for the way in which the story is presented, which makes it easier to follow. Jackie Carr's voice is found mainly in her journal entries and correspondence, which were found when Amber was cleaning out her mother's home.
This reader truly felt for the child whose mother was always occupied, a seemingly neglected child who almost appeared to be an afterthought to her mother. I felt angry on Amber's behalf when her mother casually informs her daughter of her true parentage, and numerous other incidents which were either thoughtless, cruel, or inappropriate.
Thinking that the mother's journals might hold the "other side of the story" offering some plausible explanation for her daughter's childhood memories, I found that although Jackie was often brilliant and ahead of her time in many respects, she appeared to be unaware of the effect that her decisions and behavior had on her children. One reckless incident in particular involved her taking two of her children on a world tour, often piloting her own small aircraft. As the daughter of a pilot who also put his children through dangerous flights, that part of the story hit a nerve with me (my father later died in a private plane crash - luckily, no one else was aboard).
In any event, it was only after receiving her Alzheimer's diagnosis in her later years did Jackie Carr reflect upon her regrets as far as her children were concerned. Prior to that, she admitted that she never believed in having regrets, or saying "sorry". She did try to cover financially for her six children, which unfortunately couldn't completely make up for the lack of stable and loving parenting.
Eventually one finds that along with the author's goal to resolve the resentment and hurt from her childhood, she learns to forgive her mother, as well as learning more about herself along the way. ...more
This flight attendant's diary wound up being a great source for understanding the airline industry, why certain rules are in place, and the dynamics oThis flight attendant's diary wound up being a great source for understanding the airline industry, why certain rules are in place, and the dynamics of airline travel before and after "9-11." The latter subject, covered in the last chapter, gives us the reasons for the changes made on account of drastically reduced airline tickets. It makes you a bit more aware of what we passengers should not be complaining about when we fly. Our reduced ticket prices hold the answer to that one.
Though I was put off by the author's ageist references, as well as her superficial observations about the appearance of her passengers and others, her candid views also shed light on her own motivations and aspirations. You're getting as honest a description of her life as a flight attendant, which, after reading the book, makes one realize that those who do that job and stay with it have to be doing it for the LOVE of travel. It has to be, since the lifestyle itself - as described in Poole's book - is often difficult, at best. Fun anecdotes about difficult passengers are a pleasure read about - because you are grateful that YOU didn't choose the profession of flight attendant!
The miseries of dealing with the physical ailments associated with the job, always being hungry, inconsistent hours, skewed sleep schedules, sketchy living places and spaces for flight attendants, as well as some of the passengers - which can be an even bigger pain - would discourage most of us. The pay isn't even that great!
Most useful are Heather's tips about blocked ears (common malady during an airline's descent), turbulence, airport security, and what to communicate and to whom, if you want to change seating, etc. If nothing else, "Cruising Altitude" will have you more empathetic to your flight attendants next time you travel the friendly skies. ...more
I vaguely recall the news story about the Missouri woman whose sentence for murder was commuted by the governor in 2009. She had murdered her father -I vaguely recall the news story about the Missouri woman whose sentence for murder was commuted by the governor in 2009. She had murdered her father - who had raped her as a child.
Fast forward to last week, when I bought her memoir: "Redemption". Some of what she described in her story reminded me of my own growing-up years as an abused child. Both of us were eight years old when we were first raped by our fathers. I thought I could identify with Stacey's story, in some way.
However, I found that unlike my experience, where my father was always violent and abusive towards his children, Lennert had initially had a loving relationship with her father. This may have led to more of a feeling of betrayal in her relationship with her parent later on, than it would have if he had been consistently abusive from the start (as mine had).
Though there were many differences between Stacey's story and mine- bearing in mind Leo Tolstoy's observation from Anna Karenina, that: "Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way" - there were still enough similarities to give me flashbacks as I read the book.
The first half of the book recounts escalating assaults with each stressful event. Lennart's parents divorced, and that left Stacey alone with her father, thus more opportunity to violate his child.
Chapter by chapter, Lennert described the incidents which culminated in the actions that led to her imprisonment for murder. I understood why she did it; I had thought of doing that in my own case, in desperation.....but fortunately avoided.
Most of the rest of the book covers prison life and the unexpected revelations that it provided. I won't give away the ending, except to say that Stacey Lennart's story has helped and continues to help survivors of abuse through her story and her website, by allowing others to open up about their own abuses. Perhaps Lennart's story and others like hers may someday eradicate the cycle of sexual abuse....more
I won't go into a synopsis of the book; that has been done. Instead, my impressions of Alex's story partly brought me back to my growing-up years in tI won't go into a synopsis of the book; that has been done. Instead, my impressions of Alex's story partly brought me back to my growing-up years in the 50s and 60s', when I was abused. Though Alex went through a shorter period of time during the attempted "re-programming" on her, the trauma is lasting.
Alex's not being believed also resonates. There was much for me to relate to in her memoir, even though I'm not Mormon or gay. The fear she felt in the courtroom when her abusers entered is how I felt when I confronted my father. The writing was good enough to keep me riveted to her story.
That Alex is informing and educating others is so important. Just as I publicly shed light about my experiences in the 1970s (when most people didn't discuss or acknowledge child sexual abuse), Alex went public. Many won't believe that these things happen(or want to believe), and at first, they will think that you are making it up. But as long as these things are not exposed and kept secret, the abusers will get away with it, and continue on. Coming out means that eventually, positive changes will happen through awareness and action.
Whatever the reason or justification for Alex's parents to put her through "treatment", the lesson for us all is that our children are a gift; they are not our possessions, or born into this world to be what WE want them to be. If your religion or community expects you to go against your own child, then you need to change religions. Alex is continuing on, helping others attain a better life, so that others won't have to go through what she did. Good for her....more
This memoir, with its descriptions of life in the 50s-60s. evokes nostalgia for that "simpler" time. Overall, the story reveals a happy childhood, witThis memoir, with its descriptions of life in the 50s-60s. evokes nostalgia for that "simpler" time. Overall, the story reveals a happy childhood, with a few ups and downs, which are to be expected in any life. The remembrances of family and neighbors is well-described in great detail, including quite a few colorful characters.
Though I cannot relate to the “happy childhood” part of it, I can relate to some – but not all – of the cultural aspects of our era described. Indianapolis had many brands and customs that my state, California, did not have. However, the mention of television “snow effect” and popular subjects of the ‘50s-60s were pretty much universal.
Appropriately, the main portion of the book is focused on the viewpoint of a child. The addition of photos and fiber art inspiration enriches and rounds out this story. The last chapter's poignant message about (and to) the author's father serves as a representation of the lasting love that is woven throughout Bonnie's very fortunate life. "Through A Child's Eyes" may also serve as an example and a gift to the author's heirs - her part of the family's history, to be continued through them. ...more
Most of us plan, or at least envision, how our lives will go. "Rethinking Possible" confirms the adage that "life isn't fair". At first, we learn abouMost of us plan, or at least envision, how our lives will go. "Rethinking Possible" confirms the adage that "life isn't fair". At first, we learn about the author's almost idyllic childhood. Rebecca (Becky) Faye Smith Galli's parents are wise and loving; her two siblings share a close relationship with her. This is a healthy, close-knit family. Her preacher father's words of wisdom and support are woven throughout the chapters. I am certain that this upbringing was in large part responsible for giving Becky the inner strength to later survive a string of devastating blows, each of which causes her to "rethink" her expectations. This was easier said than done, and the reader is privy to Becky's frustrations, anger, pain, and sorrow throughout these tragedies. It seemed as though Becky was targeted by an angry deity, and I kept wondering: "What are the ODDS?", and then: "This is TOO MUCH!"
What initially interested me in this book was the author's involvement as a founding member of "Pathfinders for Autism", as I am conservator for my autistic brother, and was interested to read what she had to say. However, I found the subject of autism to be just "the tip of the iceberg" in Becky's story. I couldn't put the book down, hoping for some kind of resolution in each chapter - a light at the end of each tunnel. After her understandable reactions to the sheer number of assaults she endured, Becky learns to "rethink possible" by dealing with life as it is, and not what it was planned to be. Inspirational and insightful....more
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