I have heard of Denise Duffield Thomas in my business groups. I have to admit I wasn't very into what I call the woo woo stuff before. I was firmly lo
I have heard of Denise Duffield Thomas in my business groups. I have to admit I wasn't very into what I call the woo woo stuff before. I was firmly logic centered but this year I have shifted into believing that it may hold the answers for a happier and better life. I saw this on Kindle Unlimited so I downloaded it and read it.
To be clear she is not a financial advisor. She is a mindset coach so don't go into it thinking you are gonna get financial advice on how to get rich, that is not what this book is. Rather this book is about changing your mindset relating to money.
And after reading this I realized that I DO need to change my mindset. Growing up in Central Appalachia all the financial education I got is "there is never enough money". Even when the mines were open and some dude was making 400,000 dollars a year as a foreman or whatever they always claimed poverty. I grew up with no matter HOW MUCH money there was in reality in my head I was always barely scraping by. It didn't help that no one in the mountains ever taught financial literacy to kids so we were all stuck in what is called the poverty mentality.
I am about to get all woo woo here so if you are against that just skip this part. The truth of the matter is you attract what you think about and put out. So if you act and think like a poor person then you will be a poor person. I read Ask and it is Given awhile a go and I wonder why that shit never seemed to work for me. After reading Get Rich Lucky Bitch I had my aha moments and I took a long hard look at WHAT I was thinking and guess what? I was stuck in the never enough mentality, and guess what? Most times it seemed like there was never enough of anything.
Denise Duffield Thomas suggests that if you find yourself in the never enough mentality to try and make small upgrades and when you are ready to make another small upgrade. you keep on going until you reach YOUR version of a fulfilled life.
I decided that I was going to try making tiny upgrades. The first one was my cleaning stuff. I knew that Grove had a good deal on organic cleaning supplies but yet most of my stuff came from the Dollar Store. I am conducting an experiment with doing UnFuck Your Habitat and I told myself that was going to get my stuff on the Grove website. I ordered them and you know what I actually kinda liked cleaning with these supplies. I am writing a whole blog post with this experience so check back for that post. Yes, It was just a tiny upgrade and at times it was even the same price or cheaper than the Dollar Store but you know what? I felt good using them and my whole mentality to cleaning changed.
If you are used to shopping at Wal-Mart don't go and start buying out Macy's. If you shop at Walmart then next go to Target and when that feels like comfy then you shop at the next level and I don't even know what that is so I can't help you there.
Denise Duffield Thomas also talks about manifesting what you want. She has had lots o success in this so she knows what she is talking about. I honestly LOVED reading her back story and how she manifested stuff. I was all like I want to try all of this and you best believe that I took lots of notes. My favorite part of the book was the end where she explains how to manifest money for a trip or a conference. The ebook on my kindle is all yellow cause I highlighted and took so many notes. I decided there is something I want to manifest so I started the process and she warned that problems would pop up when you stated you desire to the Universe. And you know what I put down on paper what I wanted, made a list of how I could pay for it and did all the things to start the manifestation process and the next day there were the family crisis, friend crisis, personal crisis. It got to where I was wondering if what I wanted to manifest was worth it but you know what? I am standing my ground till the Universe gives me what I ask for.
This is NOT a get rich quick kind of book. I have read some reviews that people thought this was a get rich quick book and was disappointed when it wasn't. This is all about aligning yourself to the life that you want. The important thing is the LIFE YOU WANT part. Don't do something cause it is another person's vision of success. That won't make you happy.
One more thing. To attract the life you want you to have to be happy with what you HAVE NOW. If you are thinking shit I don't have any money then soon you will subconsciously defeat yourself and you really won't have money. You have to imagine how it would feel to live the life you want and to get in that mindset so that is what you attract. So many people stay trapped in the " I don't have enough" and soon they are really scraping by. You do not want that to happen to you RIGHT?!? So imagine how you would feel in the South of France making money with your writing and blog. Feel the tropical breeze and really imagine walking along the palm studded street on your way to the gym to have a killer workout. How do you FEEL and HOLD ON TO THAT FEELING EVEN WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN and the universe will find a way to make it happen for you!
Well...that was a letdown. I had such high hopes for this book also. I loved the synopsis of it on NetGalley and couldn't wait to dive into it. The b
Well...that was a letdown. I had such high hopes for this book also. I loved the synopsis of it on NetGalley and couldn't wait to dive into it. The book was pretty good I kept waiting for THE BIG THING to happen and I clicked on my Kindle and.THE END.
I at first thought maybe my copy was missing a few pages, but a quick check on GoodReads and nope that was truly the end of the book. O.K
I now can't decide if I liked it or if I am pissed cause it didn't end the way I felt it should. I mean I am not the author, so I dont have any say in how it ends, but I did feel that the secret that was revealed was..lackluster. I wanted SCANDALS and ACTION and all of that. Instead, all I got was a divorce and an affair.
Looking back I realize that this is more of how the main protagonist grows. It is a character story more than it is a plot driven story. I dont have a problem with that, but I went into this with an expectation of something more so that makes me somewhat grumpy that I did not get it.
As a character study though it was excellent. We see how Stella grows and changes throughout the novel. The book goes deep into her psyche, so we are in her head the whole time. There were times I thought she was dumb but we have all been in her shoes including myself. She was perfectly flawed as we all are. I found that I could relate to her. I have never been through a divorce but I HAVE been on the losing side of unrequited love, and I found myself nodding my head and going I am glad it wasn't just me that was so blind even though it was only a fictional person that I was relating to. It is amazing how stories even fictional ones can make us feel less alone.
Again there was nothing I did not NOT like about the book I was just expecting more from it as the synopsis made it seem that more would happen and it did not. I think if I had lower expectations or knew that this was more of a character study then I may have finished it with different feelings.