This is pretty decent, and I'm glad that there's a new easy nonfiction book on the topic for kids about a Canadian context. I'm also happy to see photThis is pretty decent, and I'm glad that there's a new easy nonfiction book on the topic for kids about a Canadian context. I'm also happy to see photos of people of colour in the photos. Also, the definition of bisexual is great and not binary ("a person who loves all people no matter their gender"). A few issues: a focus on "it's about who you love"--which doesn't cover trans identity at all; some weird awkward transitions between ideas; it doesn't look like there are any trans people in any photos and the only close up of a couple is two men....more
I think this is the first self-help book I've ever read? It was quite a mixed bag: some of her examples including weight loss, sexuality, and her son'I think this is the first self-help book I've ever read? It was quite a mixed bag: some of her examples including weight loss, sexuality, and her son's autism felt problematic to me, but at the same time I found the core components of the concept of self-compassion (mindfulness, being kind to yourself, emphasizing shared humanity) and her discussions of the dangers of self-criticism and focusing on high self-esteem very compelling and useful.
Some of the passages that stood our for me (some are direct quotes, other paraphrased as I listened to the audiobook):
"There is more to me than the pain I am feeling right now. I am also the heartfelt response to that pain."
"Core components of self-compassion: - Mindfulness: be here now, acknowledge what you're feeling, experiencing without judgement - Shared humanity: everyone suffers, not feeling isolate yourself, not think that only you are suffering - Being kind to yourself: be gentle and kind to yourself instead of critical and judgemental"
"Self compassion mantra for moments of anxiety/strong negative emotions: This is a moment of suffering. Suffering is a part of life. May I be kind to myself in this moment. May I give myself the compassion I need."
"Do I want to feel better than others, or to feel connected? Does my worth come from being special, or from being human? Do I want to be perfect, or to be healthy?"
"Self-criticism... can lead to psychological tricks designed to prevent self-blame in the case of failure, which, in turn, makes failure more likely. The tendency to undermine your performance in ways that create a plausible excuse for failing is known as self-handicapping. One common form of self-handicapping is simply not trying very hard. If I don't practise ahead of time for my neighbourhood tennis match, I can blame losing the match on my lack of practice rather than being a bad tennis player. Another common strategy is procrastination. If I mess up on a work assignment that I didn't start preparing for until the last minute, I can blame my failure on my lack of preparation rather than my incompetence. ... Self-criticism can lead us to shoot ourselves in the foot."
"Being comfortable with the idea that you might fail even when you try your best. Trust yourself to be understanding and compassionate when you fail."
"Learning goals instead of performance goals -- better in the long run. By losing our fear of failure (caused by self-criticism), we become free to challenge ourselves. At the same time, by acknowledging the limitations of being human we're better able to recognize which goals are working for us and which are not and when it's time to take a new approach."...more
I was put off immediately by the author's voice in this audiobook. I'm not sure how to describe it but I just really didn't like her voice! I tried toI was put off immediately by the author's voice in this audiobook. I'm not sure how to describe it but I just really didn't like her voice! I tried to persevere but then I was unsettled by the ungenerous, patronizing, and almost fetishistic attitude that she used to describe regular patrons waiting outside the library for it to open. It felt gross and classist....more
I really enjoyed this #memoir #audiobook about millenial motherhood. I loved how she didn't shy away from complex, contradictory, and negative aspectsI really enjoyed this #memoir #audiobook about millenial motherhood. I loved how she didn't shy away from complex, contradictory, and negative aspects of pregnancy, birth, and being a new mom. It's brutally honest and vulnerable but not without humour. She writes:"What if everyone worried less about giving women a bad impression of motherhood?"; this is certainly what she does. Only complaint: I wished she had dug a bit deeper into certain issues (namely, post-partum depression, her and her partner's decision to have the baby, and their decision to leave New York).
Her writing about PPD in particular is strange, as she only mentions it near the very end of the book, chronologically when she realized at the time that she had had it for like a year after the birth and was just emerging from it. It kind of retroactively coloured a lot of the previous chapters for me--like, was breastfeeding actually that awful, did she really need to start writing again so soon, was she really naturally more of a "slacker" parent than her partner--like is any of that true separate from her experiencing depression? Or was all that writing that was ostensibly about other topics actually just about depression? I really would have liked her to address that!...more
Such a great book with gentle, non-judgmental, inspiring advice and coping strategies for dealing with mental illness. Forney has bipolar so that's thSuch a great book with gentle, non-judgmental, inspiring advice and coping strategies for dealing with mental illness. Forney has bipolar so that's the focus of the book, but as someone with anxiety and a bit of depression, I still found a lot of the tips applicable and helpful. Her writing is down-to-earth and funny and her illustrations are cute and emotionally spot-on. I borrowed this from the library, but it's definitely one I will be buying!...more
I never seem to enjoy the genre of biography as much as I think I'm going to (I've realized memoir and autobiography both appeal to me more for whatevI never seem to enjoy the genre of biography as much as I think I'm going to (I've realized memoir and autobiography both appeal to me more for whatever reason). But I quite liked this, at least as much as I have other biographies of historical LGBTQ people. I knew very little of her going into this and thought Lorraine was a complex, fascinating artist who fought against many different forms of social injustice from the 40s - early 60s....more