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message 1: by Kandice (new)

Kandice I just started this and already love it! I needed a good book. Nice review, like always! :D


message 2: by Carmen (new)

Carmen Kandice wrote: "I just started this and already love it! I needed a good book. Nice review, like always! :D"

Aw, thanks, Kandice! I'm excited you are reading this! I will be following your updates and eagerly awaiting your review!


message 3: by Steelwhisper (new)

Steelwhisper She speaks from a high end position. I was fine with what you wrote, until I got to her sex advice. Much of it is - in my opinion - quite the nonsense. Unfortunately maybe, but still nonsense.

As always though an enjoyable review!


message 4: by Carmen (new)

Carmen She speaks from a high end position. I was fine with what you wrote, until I got to her sex advice. Much of it is - in my opinion - quite the nonsense. Unfortunately maybe, but still nonsense.

As always though an enjoyable review!


LOL I LOVE hearing your opinion, Steelwhisper. You are just such a smart and interesting person. I feel like I learn a lot from you. :) No bullshit. Sometimes I feel like we have wildly varying experiences in life, but that just adds to the fun. ;)

Thanks so much for your kind words!


message 5: by Carmen (new)

Carmen Which parts do you think are nonsense? Please elaborate! :)


message 6: by Steelwhisper (last edited Feb 01, 2017 10:58PM) (new)

Steelwhisper Carmen wrote: "Which parts do you think are nonsense? Please elaborate! :)"

Heh, I was already looking for the quote ;) This here is from a discussion of the topic among men and women on a European forum.

This is the hard reality just before menopause. For your target group of single moms after several failed relationships anyway:

At 16 nearly all women are attractive.
At 26 possibly half of them.
At 36 a quarter of them at most.

Sure, possibly women older than 40 are super experienced and constantly megahorny, but as a normal guy you simply ask yourself "do I want to touch that faded, wrinkled flesh?" and the answer usually is "no". Experience never ever was more attractive for the majority of men than beauty and youth, even though overweight older women love to convince you into believing this.


And I think this quote is correct, not Poehler. She is famous, still good-looking (which I don't really believe to be entirely due nature's favours, most women at that age without artificial help look very different), probably supposed to be rich or actually rich by men seeking her out.

The average Jane, whether emancipated and feminist or not, who takes her words as gospel would have a very bad wake up call. She speaks as if all women were as attractive, physically and financially and status-wise, as she is. That's, in my opinion, a pretty mean-spirited deception.

And...

A lot of women have sex with men with whom they don't really want to have sex, but they have it anyway, because else they'd have no sex at all, and most likely no relationship at all.

Not all women like dirty talk, whether from their men, nor do they like themselves to talk dirty.

At least 45% (yes, it's been researched ;P) women prefer vaginal or anal sex to oral sex. So nope, "eating out pussy" is not a qualifier and demanding it might chase an otherwise perfect mate.

Possibly the reason why she gives such truly skewed advice is because she considers herself plain, as you state elsewhere. I'm not so sure this isn't being coy, but I haven't read the book. So if she thinks she is plain, maybe she thinks her sexual successes are available to "other plain women". But seriously, she isn't plain, she belongs to the upper 15% in the good looks department, and her name and profession will add attraction for men.

Edited to correct typos. Sorry, I'm not yet really awake (and it is soooo cold here just now).


message 7: by Carmen (last edited Feb 01, 2017 11:08PM) (new)

Carmen LOL I hope you warm up soon, Steel! Cup of tea? ;)

I agree Poehler is very attractive. I also agree with you that oral sex isn't for everyone, and dirty talk isn't for everyone. But I think when people are trying to advise other people about sex, they can only go off their own experiences. So... that's probably where the problem lies.

Certainly Poehler would probably not describe herself as a 'sex expert,' she's just trying to help a sister out and I think she makes some valid points. I can't fault her for not telling women 'your chances of getting laid over the age of 36 are shit' because frankly this isn't that kind of book. She's (although she confronts some true problems with society) trying to be generally upbeat and positive in this book.

I really appreciate your input, Steelwhisper! I learn so much from you! :)

Heh, I was already looking for the quote ;) This here is from a discussion of the topic among men and women on a European forum.

This is the hard reality just before menopause. For your target group of single moms after several failed relationships anyway:

At 16 nearly all women are attractive.
At 26 possibly half of them.
At 36 a quarter of them at most.

Sure, possibly women older than 40 are super experienced and constantly megahorny, but as a normal guy you simply ask yourself "do I want to touch that faded, wrinkled flesh?" and the answer usually is "no". Experience never ever was more attractive for the majority of men than beauty and youth, even though overweight older women love to convince you into believing this.

And I think this quote is correct, not Poehler. She is famous, still good-looking (which I don't really believe to be entirely due nature's favours, most women at that age without artificial help look very different), probably supposed to be rich or actually rich by men seeking her out.

The average Jane, whether emancipated and feminist or not, who takes her words as gospel would have a very bad wake up call. She speaks as if all women were as attractive, physically and financially and status-wise, as she is. That's, in my opinion, a pretty mean-spirited deception.

And...

A lot of women have sex with men with whom they don't really want to have sex, but they have it anyway, because else they'd have no sex at all, and most likely no relationship at all.

Not all women like dirty talk, whether from their men, nor do they like themselves to talk dirty.

At least 45% (yes, it's been researched ;P) women prefer vaginal or anal sex to oral sex. So nope, "eating out pussy" is not a qualifier and demanding it might chase an otherwise perfect mate.

Possibly the reason why she gives such truly skewed advice is because she considers herself plain, as you state elsewhere. I'm not so sure this isn't being coy, but I haven't read the book. So if she thinks she is plain, maybe she thinks her sexual successes are available to "other plain women". But seriously, she isn't plain, she belongs to the upper 15% in the good looks department, and her name and profession will add attraction for men.

Edited to correct typos. Sorry, I'm not yet really awake (and it is soooo cold here just now).


edited to add your original text


message 8: by Steelwhisper (last edited Feb 01, 2017 11:24PM) (new)

Steelwhisper I'm just feeding wood into the bloody oven and stoking it. We had a night of well under 30 degrees Fahrenheit. But yes, I am holding on to a nice coffee here ;)

I agree that a comedian's memoire is probably not the place to discuss the current obsession with youth, but what caught my eye was her pushing off old(er) men as being crazy fuckers, while maintaining that at 40 all women can still be choosers.

I'm close to her age, definitely not as beautiful as she is, and the sole area where I still attract male glances is the dungeon - because female tops are rare.

I'm happily settled, but I'd have a hard time now finding a man to my tastes outside of a dungeon, if I had to go looking for one again. I'd either have to settle for someone much older (at least 10-15 years older), or much more unattractive in some department than what I consider attractive. If I look around, I see the 85% women who're not looking like Poehler at 40, so it galls a bit to read how an actress asserts that things are easy at that age.


message 9: by Michael (last edited Feb 02, 2017 09:33AM) (new)

Michael This is one of your best reviews,so blunt and real! Still may not be interested though,but your review is outstanding!! ..No really,remarkable!


message 10: by Donna (new)

Donna Terrific review, Carmen. I agree some of the best parts of this book sounded like they could have been written by a version of you. I'm still waiting for the day you'll write your own book. :)


message 11: by Kandice (new)

Kandice Donna wrote: "Terrific review, Carmen. I agree some of the best parts of this book sounded like they could have been written by a version of you. I'm still waiting for the day you'll write your own book. :)"

I hope she'll give us ARCs, because someday Carmen MUST write a book. It feels inevitable. :)


message 12: by Carmen (new)

Carmen I'm just feeding wood into the bloody oven and stoking it. We had a night of well under 30 degrees Fahrenheit. But yes, I am holding on to a nice coffee here ;)

I agree that a comedian's memoire is probably not the place to discuss the current obsession with youth, but what caught my eye was her pushing off old(er) men as being crazy fuckers, while maintaining that at 40 all women can still be choosers.

I'm close to her age, definitely not as beautiful as she is, and the sole area where I still attract male glances is the dungeon - because female tops are rare.

I'm happily settled, but I'd have a hard time now finding a man to my tastes outside of a dungeon, if I had to go looking for one again. I'd either have to settle for someone much older (at least 10-15 years older), or much more unattractive in some department than what I consider attractive. If I look around, I see the 85% women who're not looking like Poehler at 40, so it galls a bit to read how an actress asserts that things are easy at that age.


She's got a man, too, she's not married to him, but she's certainly not single. And, as you said, her looks, fame, and riches probably make her very desirable.

I don't think she's playing coy about thinking she's plain, though. She seems to actually believe that shit.

I can't, I mean, I don't think I can advise women to have sex with just 'some guy' or 'any guy' just to be having sex. Perhaps because I'm a romantic or because I'm a big believer in masturbation, but it just seems awful to me. That's just my personal thing, though.

I'm happy you are happily settled and also that you got to warm up a bit!


message 13: by Carmen (new)

Carmen Michael wrote: "This is one of your best reviews,so blunt and real! Still may not be interested though,but your review is outstanding!! ..No really,remarkable$"

Aw, thank you, Michael! *blush* You are sweet! :)


message 14: by Carmen (new)

Carmen Donna wrote: "Terrific review, Carmen. I agree some of the best parts of this book sounded like they could have been written by a version of you. I'm still waiting for the day you'll write your own book. :)"

Donna, LOL Especially at that part with the rude older man, I was like, "ARE YOU ME?!?!!?!!?" because she said EXACTLY what I would have said. (I wouldn't have chased him across the airport, though.) Ditto because she says "your woman" as in "take care of your woman and never shame her" and I always say "your woman!" !!!! Wow, it was crazy. Really made me like her a lot.

I can't write fiction. But writing a non-fiction piece / book is feasible, I GUESS. Not really though, because I'm lazy. LOL

Thanks for all your kind words, Donna!


message 15: by Carmen (new)

Carmen Kandice wrote:
I hope she'll give us ARCs, because someday Carmen MUST write a book. It feels inevitable. :)


LOL You're incredibly sweet, but don't hold your breath! :)


message 16: by Cecily (new)

Cecily This is brilliantly comprehensive - and fair.


message 17: by Joe (last edited Feb 02, 2017 06:51PM) (new)

Joe Valdez I love this review, guapa. Women who express themselves like Poehler are immensely attractive to me. She is smart and assertive and quite often very funny. I have so much less use for "nice" the older I get. Her sex advice sounds really on point. It takes balls to put yourself out there by talking about religion, sex or politics. I'm glad you gave Poehler the Carmen Legion of Decency stamp of approval.


message 18: by Carmen (new)

Carmen Cecily wrote: "This is brilliantly comprehensive - and fair."

Aw, thank you, Cecily. That means a lot to me.


message 19: by Carmen (new)

Carmen I love this review, guapa. Women who express themselves like Poehler are immensely attractive to me. She is smart and assertive and quite often very funny. I have so much less use for "nice" the older I get. Her sex advice sounds really on point. It takes balls to put yourself out there by talking about religion, sex or politics. I'm glad you gave Poehler the Carmen Legion of Decency stamp of approval.

Dear Joseph,

Poehler is EXTREMELY ATTRACTIVE when she stands up for herself, which is often. I think since she is 45 now, she feels less of a need to present a pleasing face to everyone. Women who are strong and outspoken and stand up for themselves are very attractive.

I liked her sex advice, although its merits have been debated here! LOL LOL

I was surprised I liked this so much. I am VERY unfamiliar with Poehler and her work, and a close friend had told me that she didn't enjoy this book very much, so my expectations were low. But Poehler was actually very good. I still don't think it's 5-star worthy, but it IS very good.

Thanks for stopping by, Joseph!


message 20: by Carol. (new)

Carol. Nice review. I appreciate the detail. I'm iffy on biographies, but I feel like I have a good grip on what it would contain.


message 21: by Carmen (new)

Carmen Carol. wrote: "Nice review. I appreciate the detail. I'm iffy on biographies, but I feel like I have a good grip on what it would contain."

Thank you, Carol! I'm glad to help you and anyone else who is curious!


message 22: by Ɗẳɳ 2.☊ (new)

Ɗẳɳ  2.☊ I really enjoyed your cliff notes review here, Carmen. 5 stars - great to read with my morning coffee. Thanks for providing all those details. :)


message 23: by Carmen (new)

Carmen I really enjoyed your cliff notes review here, Carmen. 5 stars - great to read with my morning coffee. Thanks for providing all those details. :)

Aw, thank you, Dan! I'm glad my review and the coffee helped to wake you up! I tried to convey the gist of the book. :)


message 24: by Cher (new)

Cher Fantastic review, Carmen! This brought back a lot of nice reading memories of this book for me. :)


message 25: by Carmen (new)

Carmen Cher wrote: "Fantastic review, Carmen! This brought back a lot of nice reading memories of this book for me. :)"

Thank you, Cher!


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