Midlife Crisis Quotes

Quotes tagged as "midlife-crisis" (showing 1-30 of 45)
A.M. Homes
“I don't know anything anymore. Is that normal? Is it normal to notice the enormity of everything and just go blank?”
A.M. Homes

“The sequence is suffering, insight, will, action, change.”
Allen Wheelis, How People Change

“But what the measured prose of psychiatrists and the carefully calculated statistics of social scientists rarely capture is the experience of inner struggle. These "significant changes" do not occur automatically. In fact, they must often fight against our resistance. In this sense, midlife is a drama more worthy of a playwright than a scholar. We are characters in the play, caught at the opening of the second act, and we do not know what will happen next.”
Mark Gerzon, Listening to Midlife: Turning Your Crisis into a Quest

“All three are hip-deep in midlife, when the eyes go and the waistline spreads and the city on the hill that shone so brightly in youth turns out to be more like a semi-incorporated town in the middle of a garbage strike. An age when a person can feel not so much himself as an inexplicably inferior version of himself.”
Mary McNamara

Maggie Stiefvater
“Will you be home for dinner? I'm making midlife crisis"
"Oh, I guess I'll have a slice, if you're making it already.”
Maggie Stiefvater, The Dream Thieves

Tanya Masse
“You know you’ve officially hit a midlife crisis when you finally start feeling like you have your life together and your body starts falling apart!”
Tanya Masse

Mateo Sol
“While the Dark Night of the Soul is a process of death, the Spiritual Awakening Process is the rebirth.”
Mateo Sol, Awakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing

“Spiritual crises happen to us every day. Most of them are sufficiently low grade, devoid of enduring consequences, so we pay no attention and keep on rolling. A spiritual crisis occurs when our identity, our roles, our values, or our road map are substantially called into question, prove ineffective, or are overwhelmed by experience that cannot be contained by our understandings of self and world.”
James Hollis, Ph.D.

“People may indeed be treated as objects and may be profoundly affected thereby. Kick a dog often enough and he will become cowardly or vicious. People who are kicked undergo similar changes; their view of the world and of themselves is transformed. . . People may indeed be brainwashed, for benign or exploitative reasons. . .

If one's destiny is shaped by manipulation one has become more of an object, less of a subject, has lost freedom. . .

If, however, one's destiny is shaped from within then one has become more of a creator, has gained freedom. This is self-transcendence, a process of change that originates in one's heart and expands outward. . . begins with a vision of freedom, with an "I want to become...", with a sense of the potentiality to become what one is not. One gropes toward this vision in the dark, with no guide, no map, and no guarantee. Here one acts as subject, author, creator.”
Allen Wheelis, How People Change

Emil Ostrovski
“This is closest we'll ever be. This is our escape. Our secret closet, our letter of invitation to Hogwarts, our death-star run. After this we're back to the real world, and from there the hill slopes down and only stops at six feet under.”
Emil Ostrovski, The Paradox of Vertical Flight

“Neurotic suffering indicates inner conflict. Each side of the conflict is likely to be a composite of many partial forces, each one of which has been structured into behavior, attitude, perception, value. Each component asserts itself, claims priority, insists that something else yield, accommodates. The conflict therefore is fixed, stubborn, enduring. It may be impugned and dismissed without effect, imprecations and remorse are of no avail, strenuous acts of will may be futile; it causes - yet survives and continues to cause - the most intense suffering, humiliation, rending of flesh.

Such a conflict is not to be uprooted or excised. It is not an ailment, it is the patient himself. The suffering will not disappear without a change in the conflict, and a change in the conflict amounts to a change in what one is and how one lives, feels, reacts.”
Allen Wheelis, How People Change

Katerina Stoykova-Klemer
“It's not that other people seduce us. It's that we so desperately crave the destruction of our own lives.”
Katerina Stoykova-Klemer, Птичка на перваза / Bird on a Window Sill

Aletheia Luna
“The Dark Night of the Soul is not merely “having a bad day” or even week. The Dark Night is a long, pervasive, and very dark experience. If you’re experiencing the Dark Night of the Soul, you will constantly carry around within you a sense of being lost. Your heart will constantly, in some shape or form, be in mourning, and this is because you long deep down to feel the presence of your Soul again.”
Aletheia Luna, Awakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing

“We must examine what we envy or dislike in others and acknowledge those very things in ourselves. This helps to prevent our blaming or envying others for what we have not done ourselves.”
James Hollis, Ph.D.

“The meaning of the midlife affair is the imperative to go back and pick up what was left behind in one's development. Since what was undeveloped agitates from below consciousness, it is still unknown.”
James Hollis, Ph.D.

“Simply thinking creatively is not the same as being innovative, and only those who risk breaking out of their comfort zone by putting thought into action will discover the profusion of opportunity that exists.”
Michael Lum Y.M.

Sid Mittra
“You are trapped by nothing more than a poor attitude”
Sid Mittra, To Bee or Not to Bee: Winning Against All Odds

“Imagine what our story would look like if, rather than succumbing to the insistent voices of family or culture, we determined that our vocation was to be a better human.”
James Hollis, Ph.D.

Doris Lessing
“she was wishing that whatever stage of her life she ws in now could be got through quickly, for it was seeming to her interminable. If life had to be looked at in terms of high moments or peaks, then nothing had "happened" to her for a long time; and she could look forward to nothing but a dwindling away from full household activities and getting old.”
Doris Lessing, The Summer Before the Dark

Sid Mittra
“Bad things happen in life, but we must learn to deal with them and move on”
Sid Mittra, To Bee or Not to Bee: Winning Against All Odds

“The turbulence of the Middle Passage may resemble a psychotic break wherein the person acts "crazy" or with draws from others. If we realize that the assumptions by which the person has lived his or her life are collapsing, that the assembled strategies of the provisional personality are decompensating, that a world-view is falling apart, then the thrashing about is understandable.”
James Hollis, Ph.D.

Sid Mittra
“Thinking of only the worse of yourself will eventually destroy you”
Sid Mittra, To Bee or Not to Bee: Winning Against All Odds

Sid Mittra
“If you wish to succeed, you must believe in yourself and look at everything positively”
Sid Mittra, To Bee or Not to Bee: Winning Against All Odds

Sid Mittra
“Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get to work, your future lies ahead of you”
Sid Mittra, To Bee or Not to Bee: Winning Against All Odds

Lorrie Moore
“In the Dictionary 'lumpy jaw' comes just before 'lunacy,' but in life there are no such clues. Suddenly, for no reason, you might start to dribble from the mouth, to howl peevishly at the moon. You might start quoting your mother, out loud and with conviction. You might lose your friends to the most uninspired of deaths. You might one day wake up and find yourself teaching at a community college; there will have been nothing to warn you. You might say things to your students like, There is only one valid theme in literature: Life will disappoint you.”
Lorrie Moore, Anagrams

“The experience of the Middle Passage is not unlike awakening to find that one is alone on a pitching ship, with no port in sight. One can only go back to sleep, jump ship, or grab the wheel and sail on. . . . Changing one's job or relationship does not change one's sense of oneself over the long run. When increasing pressure from within becomes less and less containable by the old strategies, a crisis of selfhood erupts. We do not know who we are, really, apart from social roles and psychic reflexes. And we do not know what to do to lessen the pressure.”
James Hollis, Ph.D.

“What is famously called "the midlife crisis" is precisely such an erosion of programs and projections. We expect that by investing sincere energy in a career, a relationship, a set of roles, that they will return the investment in manifold, satisfying ways. We feverishly renew the projections, up the ante, and anxiously repress the insurgence of doubt once more.

We do not realize that a projection has occurred, for it is an unconscious mechanism of our energeic unconscious. Only after it has painfully dissolved may we begin to recognize that we placed such a large agenda on such a frangible place, that we asked too much of the beloved, of others, of institutions, and perhaps of life itself.”
James Hollis, Ph.D.

Carol Gilligan
“The significant relationships of early adulthood are thus construed as the means to an end of individual achievement, and these "transitional figures" must be cast off or reconstructed following the realization of success. If in the process, however, they become, like Dido, an impediment to the fulfillment of the Dream, then the relationship must be renounced, "to allow the developmental process" to continue. This process is defined by Levinson explicitly as one of individuation: "throughout the life cycle, but especially in the key transition periods . . . the developmental process of individuation is going on." The process refers "to the changes in a person's relationships to himself and to the external world," the relationships that constitute his "Life Structure" (p. 195).

If in the course of "Becoming One's Own Man," this structure is discovered to be flawed and threatens the great expectations of the Dream, then in order to avert "serious Failure or Decline," the man must "break out" to salvage his Dream. This act of breaking out is consummated by a "marker event" of separation, such as "leaving his wife, quitting his job, or moving to another region" (p. 206). Thus the road to mid-life salvation runs through either achievement or separation.”
Carol Gilligan, In a Different Voice: Psychological Theory and Women's Development

Robin Caldwell
“You can live doing what you love
or die having done nothing at all.”
Robin Caldwell

Dick Van Dyke
“In my early fifties, I was going through a phase where few things felt right and I was trying to figure out those that did. It was not uncommon. In your twenties, you pursue your dreams. By your late thirties and early forties, you hit a certain stride. Then you hit your fifties, you get your first annoying thoughts of mortality, you begin more serious questioning of not just the meaning of your life but of what’s working, what’s not working, and what you still want, and all of a sudden you don’t know which way is up. You thought you knew but don’t. You just want to get to where life feels okay again.”
Dick Van Dyke, My Lucky Life in and Out of Show Business

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