Coming Out Of The Closet Quotes

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“The single best thing about coming out of the closet is that nobody can insult you by telling you what you've just told them.”
Rachel Maddow

Becky Albertalli
“I don't know how people do this. How Blue did this. Two words. Two freaking words, and I'm not the same Simon anymore.”
Becky Albertalli, Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda

Anthony Venn-Brown OAM
“If you are in the closet and fall in love with someone of the same gender, it doesn't automatically remove the shame and fear that's kept you locked away. The love you are experiencing encourages you to face the reality that this is who you really are and also has the power to set you free. The richness, beauty and depths of love can only be fully experienced in a climate of complete openness, honesty and vulnerability. Love, the most powerful of human emotions, is calling you to freedom and wholeness.”
Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning - a journey to find the truth

Richard Wright
“If you possess enough courage to speak out what you are, you will find you are not alone.”
Richard Wright, Black Boy

Anthony Venn-Brown OAM
“There are those from religious backgrounds who resist and oppose LGBT equality; some very obsessively and publicly. They make bold accusations and negative statements about gay and lesbian people, their supposed "lifestyle" and relationships. But when a son, daughter, brother, sister or close friend comes out it is no longer an "issue" it becomes a person. They realise everything they'd said was painfully targeted at someone they love. Then......everything changes.”
Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning - one man's journey to find the truth

Anthony Venn-Brown OAM
“According to my previous belief system, being a Christian and homosexual was not only incompatible; like heaven and hell, they were in absolute opposition. The constant conflict of being one person inside but presenting another on the outside for twenty-two years eventually took its toll.

The messages I got were loud and clear. Never ever admit to yourself or anyone who you are. Hide it, kill it, eradicate it, heal it, deliver it, break it, suppress it, deny it, marry it to a woman, heterosexualize it, therapy it, anything and everything, but whatever you do don’t stand up one day and say “I am gay” because that will mean the end. I spent most of my life trying to destroy the real me, doing all I could to ensure he never found expression. A suicide of the soul, identity and meaning. When you finally embrace the gift of your sexual orientation it IS the end; the end of shame, fear and oppression. You leave the darkness of the closet and begin a life of honesty, authenticity and freedom.”
Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning - a journey to find the truth

David Levithan
“It's Miranda who speaks up. "You're gay," she says, with complete seriousness. "And I love you.”
David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing

Katie Allen
“You're gay," wash stated.

Rhodes nodded, a short jerk of his head, dropping his gaze to his beer.

"As in, you-like-men gay."

Still eying his beer, Rhodes gave an affirmative shrug.

"As in, you like-to-fuck-men gay."

"Yes!”
Katie Allen, Private Dicks

Anthony Venn-Brown OAM
“Every single courageous act of coming out chips away at the curse of homophobia. Most importantly it's destroyed within yourself, and that act creates the potential for its destruction where it exists in friends, family and society.”
Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning - a journey to find the truth

N.K. Jemisin
“There are many of us now. Enough to be called a people in ourselves and not merely a mistake.”
N.K. Jemisin, The Obelisk Gate

Anthony Venn-Brown OAM
“Outing someone is like ripping a butterfly from its cocoon. You can damage them for life and rob them of THEIR life changing experience of liberation. For a successful emergence THEY have to struggle through the cocoon of fear and shame. THEN they can fly.”
Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning - a journey to find the truth

David Levithan
“He plants himself right there in front of Craig’s mother and says, “You need to love him. I don’t care who you thought he was, or who you want him to be, you need to love him exactly as he is because your son is a remarkable human being. You have to understand that.”

And Craig’s mother whispers back, “I know. I know.”
David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing

Anthony Venn-Brown OAM
“The closet does have a benefit. It provides safety. Which at times is important. But remember, as long as you are in there, two other things will be too. Fear and shame.”
Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning - a preacher's struggle with his homosexuality, church and faith

Anthony Venn-Brown OAM
“Midlife dynamically, for both straight and gay males, is often challenging as we face the reality that many of the dreams we had for our lives might not become a reality and unresolved conflicts come to the surface. For us to successfully transition in to the next phase of our lives we must find reconciliation of these issues. And for the gay male there is a sense that the gay self we have tried to keep in the closet or so many years begins to scream out. "Time is running out. When do I get to live?" You can't ignore that voice in the end, you can try and suppress it, and you can try and deny it, you can try and silence it by filling your life with other noises and diverting attention ......but that voice still exists. "Will my entire life be a lie?”
Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning - a journey to find the truth

Gar McVey-Russell
“The true ugliness of the closet is its subtlety. It eats away at your soul bit by bit and you don't even realize it. If you never deal with it or comes to terms with it, then ultimately the closet will destroy you.”
Gar McVey-Russell, Sin Against the Race

Ebine Yamaji
“But thats their image of us so we stay tense, holding our breath, hoping we wont be found out. - about being gay from the film Love My Life”
Ebine Yamaji, Love My Life

LaToya Hankins
“As we chatted, cracking the expected jokes at Danita’s expense, I thought about how Danita let her search for
the real her take a physical shape while mine seemed to be taking a more internal shape. At least with my exploration, I didn’t have to worry about how I’m going to pay for it, since just like cosmetic surgery isn’t covered by most insurance plans,neither is searching for your true sexuality.”
LaToya Hankins, SBF Seeking

Diriye Osman
“You may feel like your future is slipping from your grasp, that if you don’t rush now to greet your dreams you might lose out on them, but please wait. If you are coming from an unsupportive environment with regards to your sexual orientation, the best thing to do is to establish your independence. Make sure you have a support network of loving and loyal friends. Make sure you have somewhere to live. Make sure you have an income to sustain you. Place a premium on your life. Always, always place a premium on your life.

When all these elements have been configured and your psychic compass is at the ready, go forth in the knowledge that you’ve created a self-preserving future for yourself. Go forth in the knowledge that you have a safe space to call home. Go forth in the knowledge that not only are you kicking ass but you are kicking ass on a major scale. Go forth in the knowledge that not only are you winning at life but you have already won.”
Diriye Osman

N.K. Jemisin
“Denying what you are didn't keep people from knowing what you are."

"And flaunting it isn't what saved you."

Ykka takes a deep breath. The muscles in her jaw flex, relax. "And that would be why I asked you do this, Cutter. But let's move on."

So it goes on.”
N.K. Jemisin, The Obelisk Gate

Kristina Kuzmic
“I want to live in a world where gay children don't have to feel like outsiders, don't have to play be different rules, and don't have to prepare a big coming-out speech or be terrified of whether or not their mom and dad will love and embrace them for who they are. I want to live in a world where everyone comes out. Every one. Gay and straight. A world where parents wouldn't assume anything. We wouldn't suspect or gossip. We would wait. We would listen. We would believe our kids when they tell us who they are. And then we'd let them know that they are wonderful and they are loved just the way they are. I want that for others because it's also what I want for myself -- to be accepted for who I am. Isn't that what we all want?”
Kristina Kuzmic, Hold On, But Don't Hold Still

N.K. Jemisin
“You've never really trusted him, though you don't understand why. Something about the fact that he's hidden all his life - which is hypocritical as hell after your ten years in Tirimo.”
N.K. Jemisin, The Obelisk Gate

I'm finally coming to terms with the unalloyed insanity of being a writer. Now that's
“I'm finally coming to terms with the unalloyed insanity of being a writer. Now that's coming out.”
A.K. Kuykendall

Anthony Venn-Brown OAM
“Make no mistake, hiding one's true self away in a closet and creating a facade of heterosexuality is not without its consequences; one being that no-one ever knows the real you. The closet may appear to have a degree of safety but from my experience they are very unhealthy places and do all kinds of destructive things to individuals psychologically, emotionally and behaviourally. The damage of fear, shame and self-loathing from an existence inside the closet is often projected unknowingly in the external life of the individual. They live with a false sense of safety, sometimes arrogance, behind the façade, unaware of the unconscious signals they give off that all is not well in their inner world.

In or out of the closet; there is a price to pay. Each individual must weigh up the consequences of honesty and openness or secrecy and deception for themselves. When I see the impacts the closet has on individuals, there is never a moment of doubt; I made the RIGHT choice.”
Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning – a preacher's struggle with his homosexuality, church and faith

Philippe Besson
“Those who have not taken this step, who have not come to terms with themselves, are not necessarily frightened, they are perhaps helpless, disoriented, lost as one is in the middle of a forest that's too dark or dense or vast.”
Philippe Besson

Anthony Venn-Brown OAM
“Sometimes people tell me they don’t want to label themselves by their sexual orientation.

I used to reject my gay identity. In fact I did everything to try and annihilate it. The last thing I would ever do would be to say...... “I’m gay”. Taking ownership of that was a terrifying thought and I believed it had tragic long-term as well as eternal consequences.

The closest I ever got to acknowledging my true orientation was admitting I had “a homosexual problem”. Accepting who I was, was a loooong journey. And once I’d accepted then learning to embrace and celebrate being gay.

We have multi identities. We can have different identities in different contexts. In some contexts some identities are paramount and others irrelevant. The highly self-aware person is conscious of the various identities but manages them wisely, recognizing each one is a part of the whole.

Personally, I’m proud to be a homosexual. No more shame, denial or secrecy. The shame has been washed away by self-acceptance and self-hatred replaced with self-love.

I am gay. Always have been gay. Always will be.”
Anthony Venn-Brown, A Life of Unlearning – a preacher's struggle with his homosexuality, church and faith

Jacob Tobia
“Instead of The Closet, I’d like to propose a more humane metaphor. What if we talk about queer/trans people “coming out of our shells”? When you think about it, us queers are a lot like garden snails anyway. We love flowers. We have beautiful, curly shells. We are slimy and understand the power of proper lubrication. We leave a shiny, glittering trail wherever we go. And did you know that most snails are gender-neutral and play both “male” and “female” roles in procreation? That many snails change gender multiple times throughout the course of their lives?”
Jacob Tobia

“Suddenly realizing that Q, my top chap, has been living with a secret fear --secret even to me -- for who knows how long makes me want to rage out against the entire stupid world. But Q doesn’t need rage right now. He needs the opposite.”
David Yoon

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