“he key learnings from this rumble totally challenged this system:

• When you judge yourself for needing help, you judge those you are helping. When you attach value to giving help, you attach value to needing help.

• The danger of tying your self-worth to being a helper is feeling shame when you have to ask for help.

• Offering help is courageous and compassionate, but so is asking for help.

The bottom line is that we need each other. And not just the civilized, proper, convenient kind of need. Not one of us gets through this life without expressing desperate, messy, and uncivilized need. The kind we are reminded of when we come face-to-face with someone who is in a deep struggle.”