“For example, you may think of yourself as a shy person, lazy, angry, and so on. Then ask yourself the following questions: How often do you display this trait—most of the time, sometimes, only occasionally? Who are you when you don’t display the trait? Are you still you? Are there particular circumstances that seem to draw out the trait, and others in which the trait is not apparent? What are the various causes and conditions that led to having the trait in the first place (early family experiences, genetics, life pressures, etc.)? : If these “outside” forces were partly responsible for you having this trait, is it accurate to think of the trait as reflecting the inner you? Did you choose to have this trait, and do you have much choice about whether or not you display this trait? If not, why are you judging yourself for this trait?”