I will often start with an image or phrase. Sometimes the story has to cook awhile. While it does so, I write and rewrite. I throw out drafts, and start with a new focus. I try to find what interests me most in any story I tell and go from there. How does life complicate simple things, like love and loss? I think if I write enough, I might begin to find out what I think about something, and hopefully, find more questions. all of this gives me impetus to write.