You've said that this quote from Montaigne is one of your favorites in your new book, Thrive: "There were many terrible things in my life, but most of them never happened." What does the quote mean to you?
We have often negative fantasies about everything going wrong. Your child is late coming back and immediately you imagine them in the emergency room and someone looks askance at you in the office and you imagine you’re being fired. But most of the time, our worries are for naught.
This is tied to the voice of doubt, which I call the obnoxious roommate living in our heads. Even our worst enemies don’t talk about us the way we talk to ourselves.
Some of you might have to contend with actual obnoxious roommates, so this makes it even more important for you to silence the metaphorical one. Because that's the one that can do you the most damage. Your actual obnoxious roommate will just borrow your favorite cocktail dress without asking and then spill red wine on it and then not even tell you, and then you're like, did you really think I wasn't going to notice? But the one in your head -- she'll keep you from living out your dreams for the rest of your life.