To make sense of your decision, one that defied the 1–0 binary of how people are supposed to behave, Yush concluded that women cry abuse for sympathy, because if they were truly abused, they would leave; that they complain but ultimately stay because of the material comforts they enjoy and rely on from a man. I think that he could not separate your personhood from the role you played, because he could not separate his own personhood from the role he felt pressured to play. He strove to meet the expectations of those who relied on him and mistook this performance as his identity.
