The Unquiet Bones

by Loreth Anne White

“Sometimes I feel like a glob of old blue toothpaste stuck in the basin that just won’t wash down the drain. Stuck there and drying out.”

In the context of ambiguous loss, “closure” is a myth . . . We should not be forced to chase closure. What we need to find are ways to coexist with our complex feelings, and to always remember that our reactions are completely normal. They’re not a sign of personal weakness.

All I can offer is a personal knowledge that grief is never linear, particularly ambiguous grief like that.”