behavior. But when a trait is an actual pattern within your personality—a shadow face you wear that is truly you at your worst or near worst—then it has become entrenched within your attitudinal matrix. It is not enough to just decide to be different, because the shadow has overridden your normal decision-making powers. Once a shadow persona has developed—you the cynical, you the jealous, you the raging—then healing requires that you atone: that you take responsibility for the damage you might have already done and ask God to change your
