Six months into a close relationship is about when the big issues begin to surface. At that point, most of us don’t say, “Oh, I’m about six months into this wonderful relationship. It’s about time for my big issues to come up and cause me to sabotage the relationship.” Instead, most of us go to the opposite extreme: we herald this time of deepening by seeing a fault or flaw in the other person, then studying it so microscopically that it expands
