Everyone’s math is different when it comes to how much you are willing to change or cover up to fit in, whether it’s at a job or a garden club. There was nothing particularly noble about my leaving Vogue. The math ceased to add up after a while, is all. What I have come to learn in the years since is that there are situations and relationships in which you cannot avoid reshaping whole chunks of yourself. A job doesn’t need to be one of them. To stay in a marriage, or even in some friendships, you will let go of things you think are important. Those sacrifices are worth it.
