We cannot be entirely wrong, there are surely genuine virtues to hand, but the primary error of the crush is to ignore the fact that life will in important ways have twisted us all out of shape. No one has come through completely unscathed. The chances of a perfectly admirable human walking the earth are nonexistent. Our fears and our frailties play themselves out in a thousand ways—they can make us defensive or aggressive, grandiose or hesitant, clingy or avoidant—but we can be assured that unfortunate tendencies exist in us all and will make everyone much less than perfect and, at moments,
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