A man’s passivity makes a woman feel less secure, because she will intuit that he may not be up to the job of defending her or their home. He may not be up to the job of providing for her and their children. He may even become a drag on her own ambitions. She may feel like she’s somewhat on her own, even if they’re married, and needs to frenetically cover all of life’s bases because he may not do it. It’s very unsettling, and you know what? It’s also weirdly common.
