Unf*ck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life

by Gary John Bishop

In real everyday terms, the way we talk to ourselves and others instantly shapes how we perceive life, and that same perception directly impacts our behavior right there in the moment. Ignore your perceptions at your peril! Even worse, live with the illusion that you don’t have perceptions!

“Circumstances don’t make the man; they only reveal him to himself.” —Epictetus

Most of the time, the task we’re actually facing is a lot simpler than we think it is. The problem is, we usually don’t take the time to really look at it. Some of the things we face certainly can be challenging, but at the same time what’s on the other side of those challenges is a life of our dreams. A life where we are willing and open and inspired to take it on.

Dr. Bruce Lipton, the famous stem cell and DNA scientist, found that 95% of what we do in our day-to-day life is controlled by our subconscious. Think about that for a moment. That means that out of all the things you say or do, only a tiny fraction of them are said or done with a true sense of volition.

Step out there. Trust yourself; give yourself fully to your vast capacity for victory. Set yourself the challenge of winning in new and exciting ways. Demand greatness of yourself and repeat after me: “I am wired to win.”

As you’ve probably noticed, when you do try to stay in your comfort zone, you never truly feel comfortable. There’s always that nagging feeling that you could be doing more. There’s always that desire for a life that’s better than the one you have now. The more we try to stay comfortable today, the more uncomfortable we’ll be tomorrow. There really is no destination, there is only exploring, exploring, and exploring.

You change your life by doing, not by thinking about doing. In fact, when you become closely associated with the actions you are taking, something magical starts to become apparent.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” —Dale Carnegie

don’t act on your thoughts. Act on what’s in front of you.

Love the life you have, not the one you expected to have.

In order to improve your internal world, you have to start by taking action in the external world. Get out of your mind and get into your life.