‘I’m not sure you want to know.’ He said that before. And I said it too when Joe asked where a mark on my leg was from. He repeats it later on when I ask who the girl he’s seeing is. I will say it again when he asks what gym the delivery man goes to. ‘I’m not sure you want to know.’ We pretend it’s a kindness, that we’re stopping each other from hearing things that might hurt the other, but really it’s a way of showing that there are parts of us that are out of reach now, where before they got everything. We call it ‘setting boundaries’, making ‘ground rules’ to ensure whatever it is that we
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