These days, when I encounter a nonmandatory request—even if it’s potentially positive, such as a new opportunity—I ask myself: Does this feel fun? Will it generate playfulness, connection, or flow? If so, I consider saying yes. If not—or if saying yes will reduce the time I have available for more meaningful, enjoyable, or rewarding activities—I do my best to say no. I also try to pay attention to my body—it doesn’t lie. If I feel any sort of tightness or clenching, or if my breath becomes shallow or short, it’s a sign that I shouldn’t agree. On the flip side, if I notice lightness or
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