My friends and I spent so much time going on and on about what we wanted men to do and not do, all the many layers and nuances they must contain. I wanted men to be feminist and progressive and also reflect on their privilege. I wanted men to be equal partners, thoughtful fathers, and dudes who kept their emotional labor demands to them-fucking-selves. But in this phase, this not-looking-for-marriage, not-going-to-have-kids-with-you, do-not-care-where-this-goes phase, all I needed to know was 6'2". Firefighter. Lawyer.
