“I would say being attuned and supportive means you follow the child’s lead. So if the child wants to go by a new name and pronoun, then you follow that. And names and pronouns—the importance of them cannot be over-emphasized,” Dr. Kaufman told me. “That is something that really shows support. And even if it’s challenging for the parent to change names or pronouns, it’s very important that they work at it.” “Why?” I asked her—wondering if these poor parents hadn’t already been troubled enough. “Imagine if someone started to call you by a male name and pronoun,” she said. “It wouldn’t feel like
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The child may have been called x all their life (they might have even had nicknames thry went by) so just go with how tgey want to be adressed. If it is a masculine name, deal with it. I'm 8 years in my transition ans have parents struggling to get just the first letterbof mg name out. Hich i might add is the same as my deadname so shouldn't be hard right? They have had no issue refering or reminding me of old names i didn't use for years, or nickmanes that had popped up only a few times in old life but sure call me Mark is just too damn complicated . Or how i have people move the goal post on when they would call me by my appropriate name, that is utter and tottally disrespectful.
To say poor parents is pathetic. Utterly pathetic cause it takes all the look at the kid who must be under massive distress and force them to ingore their feelings and act like a parent to appease the brattyness of their adult parent. Like seriously when will this so called author consider that some kids don't have the lyxery to come out very young. Be it not know the words, were ingored, threanted, etc. And now that they have reached dire or were outed levels of distress these hildren are seeking help from their own family only to be dismissed, not at all at all thinking what emotional pain, maybe even physical too, going on through that kid's mind and their perception of the world
