The Gottman Institute also found that how skillful someone’s repair attempt was did not necessarily predict how effective the repair was. Repairs didn’t have to be perfectly executed as much as they had to be genuine. I often tell couples and multiple-partner relationships that you can have all the communication techniques and conflict resolution skills in the world, but they do nothing if you still have an attitude of wanting to either be right or prove your partner wrong. I still recommend acquiring more communication and conflict resolution skills, but even without these, the right
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