Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

by Jessica Fern

Questions to Consider How do you find yourself over-giving in relationships? What beliefs about yourself play into this? What beliefs about others play into this? How do you find yourself under-giving in relationships? What beliefs about yourself play into this? What beliefs about others play into this? In what ways do you find yourself over-receiving or over-taking in relationships? What beliefs about yourself or about others play into this? In what ways do you find yourself under-receiving in relationships? What beliefs about yourself or about others play into this? In what ways do you experience your boundaries as porous, whether by being absorbing, being intrusive or both? In what ways do you experience your boundaries as rigid, whether by blocking, restraining or both? Do you need to focus more on tightening up your boundaries and protection of yourself, whether on the input or output? How can you do this? Do you need to focus more on softening the rigidity of your boundaries and allowing more connection, whether on the input or output? How can you do this?