In monogamy, usually at some point people have the commitment conversation in hopes of better defining their relationship, but exactly what that means to each person and all of the assumptions and expectations that each person is carrying are often left minimally discussed, if they are articulated at all. In nonmonogamy, unspoken expectations and assumptions typically don’t bode very well, and intentional discussions about exactly what we’re doing and why we are together are important for everyone involved to feel safe and secure.
