“Projecting”: this is one of those therapy words you learn along the way. It means you accuse someone else of doing or being exactly what you fear you are as a way of deflecting responsibility; it’s “watch-the-birdie” blaming. I did it a lot when it came to Farly’s relationship choices. I had always thought of my perpetual resistance to commitment as an act of liberation; I hadn’t ever realized it was the thing that made me feel trapped.
