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December 31, 2020 - January 2, 2021
the big problem is that toddler brains aren’t ready to be guided. Their development is not ready for endless choices and good decision-making. They have low impulse control, low empathy, and almost zero long-term
two-hour delay in a toddler’s bedtime is like nine hours in toddler-sleep years.
proclaiming where and when we can sit or what rooms we can enter, or crying because we started the car. They aren’t developmentally ready to hold the power wand all the time.
keeping a check on impulsive actions. Hmm. Are you seeing the problem here? If you have ever spent or are currently spending time with your average three-year-old, you probably don’t need any brain science to know that, yes indeed, our little guys have undeveloped frontal lobes and aren’t equipped to make any kind of if/then decisions.
As Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
True self-care sometimes means being brutal with your time. It’s getting up early to move your body. It’s making yourself shut down all devices at a reasonable time. It’s getting to bed religiously at an earlier time than seems feasible. It’s living with a less than perpetually clean house so you can carve some time for yourself.
We all have a deep need to be truly seen and heard, deeply seen and heard as the people we are.
