THE FOURTH VOICE Our three default voices (of power, reason, and avoidance) were all inherited from our culture. They can all partially succeed at resolving conflicts in the moment. But as is true of yanking weeds out by the stem, their solutions are only temporary. Each voice creates shadowy side effects that stick around and eventually come back to reverse some or all of the progress initially made. The voice of power creates resentment and polarization because it restricts options from being considered. The exiled options don’t disappear permanently; they lurk out of site and will return
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