“The abuser wants her to recant, to apologize,” Gregson says. “Or pay a penalty for not going along with him.” That crucial difference factors into every aspect of a negotiation. The relationship between abuser and victim, because it is emotionally charged, intensifies the dangerousness. Violence may be ongoing throughout the negotiation. And coercion. Gregson reminds the participants that they’re dealing with manipulative people, that they must guard against displays of friendship or trust. He reminds them that battered spouses or children will frequently display Stockholm syndrome,
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