The Sender: A Story About When Right Words Make All The Difference

by Kevin Elko

I want you to spend time each day visualizing. I want you to have four different scripts. Write them out thoroughly. Like a dream. Coaching on the sideline. Healthy as can be. Running up and down the sideline. Hugging your ball players. Screaming at a ref because he made a bad call. Thrilled with what’s going on. High-fiving guys. Squeaking out the victory. I want you to write out another script. You and Eve in Florence, Italy. No kids. You and Eve in Naples. Drinking good wine. Healthy as can be. Just having a blast. Let’s do a third script. I want you to see yourself walking down the aisle with your daughter. She’s in a beautiful gown getting married. Emotional. Eve waiting down there for you. “Who gives this young lady?” Feel that emotion. Then I want you to see yourself dancing at the reception. Let’s do this last dereflection. I want you to see yourself winning the state high school championship. Getting that trophy. Hoisting it. Just screaming out to the crowd and the television cameras. Maybe yelling my name: “This one’s for you, friend! This one’s for you!” Yeah, baby. Charlie, there’s something to this. There’s been a lot of cancer research that says this visualization, dereflection stuff isn’t the whole ball of wax. But there’s something to it. And I want you to dereflect everyday. You’ve got time on your hands. The uncomfortableness you have right there inside you, go somewhere else. Use your eyes; see yourself as healthy. See yourself at the state championship ...