When you feel blamed for not doing enough, tell yourself: I haven’t done anything wrong. I can listen, but I won’t accept guilt. I’m not bad, and this isn’t all about me. It’s not my fault she’s disappointed. Her expectations were truly out of line. This will blow over, even if he’s acting like nothing will ever be right again. She expects more than I can give. I would never be able to do all that, nor would I want to. What she wants me to do would stress and debilitate me.
