When someone loses emotional control, say to yourself: It’s not my fault that he can’t manage his emotions. She’s upset, but I’m still okay. The world is still turning. He’s doing his wrath-of-God act, but that doesn’t mean he’s right about this. Someone being upset doesn’t mean I have to let them dominate me. What’s she’s saying is an overwrought exaggeration. She’s trying to convince me this incident is the end of the world. It simply isn’t. When someone tries to dominate you and control your thinking, remind yourself: My needs are just as legitimate and important as his. As adults, we’re
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