I told Allen that by answering a few questions he would quickly be able to evaluate if his guilt was appropriate or excessive for the situation. I asked him: Is what you did or want to do malicious? Is what you did or want to do cruel? Is what you did or want to do abusive? Is what you did or want to do insulting, belittling or demeaning? Is what you did or want to do truly harmful to the other person’s well-being?
